I Have a Child With Autism

I have 3 children with autism. 9, 9 and 10. One of my daughters is more higher functioning and she just got reevalutated for receiving special needs at school. (They all did).

Well, they just told me that her needs are cognitive. They said its not so much her autism, as it is that shes got lower IQ. I never thought about that. They think she'll always have lower IQ and will probably always be slow.

Ok. I don't know why, but after years of knowing my kidz have autism (like what almost 6 years now) this made me super sad. I have no idea why.

She wants to get married when she gets older. Wants to be a teacher, loves kidz and unicorns.

It hurts me to think that she can't have these things, and yet shes aware enough of them that she yearns for them. And thinks about them.

I have no idea.

Is it possible for someone with special needs to find love? To have a life that they love?

I don't know why the IQ is the one to break my heart, but it does.

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Mettamomma

Former Washington Post reporter Bob Levy wrote a book about 30 years ago called something like, "just like other people," about how his developmentally disabled brother fell in love with and married a developmentally disabled woman. The book became a made for TV movie. Yes, there is hope that your daughter can find love.

darktippedrose · 41-45, F

thank you. that's sweet. I'll have to read it soon. movies with special needs makes me wanna cry cuz it's so close to home.

hereisme

There are also smartphone apps designed to help with autism

darktippedrose · 41-45, F

true. trying to get ipads for them but it's so hard to get

hereisme

If you mean financial then get second hand iPads there are plenty of them around on eBay you can get second hand iPad mini for about $100 and if your only getting it so the kids can use autism apps then you don't need anything special

darktippedrose · 41-45, F

well I still need a hard cover for them

hereisme

Just looked on amazon you can get for the iPad mini which is the cheapest iPad for $12.99 what they describe as shock absorbing / high impact resistant hybrid duel layer armour.

darktippedrose · 41-45, F

thanx. I'll look