I Have a Child With Autism

Your daughter sounds intelligent to me if she knows she wants to get married and be a teacher when she is older its not like she is stupid or anything so who knows maybe she can overcome any learning disabilities she might have.

Also new medicines are coming onto the market all the time now and if they are 9 & 10 now they have plenty of time.

I also do not think there is any reason why people with special needs cannot find love they just need to meet the right person.
Even people who do not have special needs if they do not find the right person won't have love.

I think that one obstacle to people with special needs ever meeting anybody can be worried parents themselves.
My neighbours have a daughter who is in her late 30s she has non control epilepsy and her brain was starved of oxygen before she was born because of medical negligence so she is kind of slow and live with her parents.
She is certainly not ever going to be able to live alone or anything but her parents are very over protective of her, she never leaves the apartment unless its with her mother who is very protective on everything.

Her father would like for her to meet somebody because he thinks thats what she needs but her mother she would never let her.

I felt sorry for her and one time invited her to have a BBQ with me on a patch of land about almost next door to her apartment building her father thought was a good idea but her mother did not so the BBQ never happened.
So I think that parents can sometomes be part the problem I think there needs to be a balance the parent should take care of their children and be realistic about the fact they have special needs but at the same time not to be so protective they do not even have a chance of having a life

The good thing for people with special needs nowadays is the internet because it potentially opens up a whole world to them because even if they do not know people who are local then they can meet them online.

Why not see about creating a website like that yourself because you know what its like for children with these problems and I am sure most mothers of children like yours feel exactly the same things you do so set up a website as a place for parents to come together and for the people with the problems themselves.

why don't you try and create a website put in everything you think other parents of autistic children might want to know and tthings children themselves might want to know.
Help others if your not sure how to go about doing it then look it up.

Remember your not alone out there and you need to speak with others in your situation.

I told you about my neighbor who has a daughter with severe epilepsy and her brain was starved of oxygen as a child so despite the fact she is in her late 30s mentally she is like a young child in many ways.

Anyway I have epilepsy although not as bad as hers I never used to be able to talk about it because it made me feel like I had some kind of disease I was ashamed of then I met her and suddenly my problems did not seem as bad and her parents would discuss with me my epilepsy and if made me feel so much better to be able to discuss it with people who could relate to my problem

I get the impression you have quite a few things getting you down so speak to others who you can relate to and do not bottle things up

Former Washington Post reporter Bob Levy wrote a book about 30 years ago called something like, "just like other people," about how his developmentally disabled brother fell in love with and married a developmentally disabled woman. The book became a made for TV movie. Yes, there is hope that your daughter can find love.

This reminds me of a video I saw not too long ago. Something about wind chimes. They explained why language was difficult for children with autism. One day when this child saw a wind chime he heard the tones and for him he heard it as words. They explained the chimes were speaking to him in his language. He began to think with more clarity and did better in school.
http://www.chimes.com/t-autism.aspx

Here's correct info about the book and movie that I posted about earlier that's the true story of two developmentally disabled people who marry. The book and movie are called, "Like Normal People," and it was written by former Washington Post reporter Bob Meyers about his brother. You can still find the book on Amazon and other sites. Here's a link to the movie: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0079471/reviews

Rose I posted below a link on Wind Chimes and how they helped this one child to learn. Please watch it.