Another day of confusion...

My wife is upset because our son and myself stopped her from following the dog around trying to get her to eat a salad for dinner. She had two paper plates filled with salad and couldn't figure out why the dog wouldn't eat, and when I took the salads and put them away and got the dog bowl and put dog food and some cold cuts in it -- which the dog immediately ate -- my wife got all kinds of pouty and angry, though we're not sure exactly why. :'(

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Heartlander

There are dozens, maybe hundreds of YouTube videos with advice and suggestions on how to respond to belligerent or misbehavior by people with dementia. One thing to keep in mind is that in many cases the individual is absolutely convinced that what they do is right and appropriate and direct criticism and/or opposition to their behavior may cause them to double down or retreat in resentment that may influence future trust and interactions.

Sadly, it’s not like dealing with someone of sound mind.

ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M

@Heartlander She doesn't get violent or nasty, just kind of grump and frustrated. It's hard to tell if she's upset with us or with herself.

Heartlander

@ChipmunkErnie Be thankful. I’ve seen enough pleas from those with spouses or parents that turn violent and may even be a threat to the life of the caregiver. It takes a bit of practice to not push back against misguided behavior but to accept and look for ways to deflect.