I Hate Alzeimers and Dimentia

I am sorry she is a ghost of her former self. Have you tried other things? Can you sing songs to her? Ones that come from her generation. You would be surprised how many demented or Alzheimer's people can still enjoy music. Another thing is to just touch her. Hold her hand and speak softly to her. Rub it gently. She can still feel and understand loving touch. Sometimes old family photographs spark something. She is in a different world now. She won't enter yours. Bring yourself into hers. Try these.

It is severe to spend time with people who are ghosts like this. My mom ended up demented too. And, at times, violent. But no matter what, she never forgot that I loved her. You could join a support group. And there are people to talk to: social workers, clergy (if you are religious), close friends, etc. I wish you peace of mind.