I Hate Alzeimers and Dimentia

I spent almost 20 years running facilities where we had residents with dementia and Alzheimer's. As hard as it was for the residents to go from the first stages to where they remembered nothing, it was equally hard, if not harder for their families. I saw it tear so many of their children apart... it helps if you can join a support group. Stay strong, I know it's hard. 🌻

exactly where I am
at least she seems comfortable and can laugh and smile

I am sorry she is a ghost of her former self. Have you tried other things? Can you sing songs to her? Ones that come from her generation. You would be surprised how many demented or Alzheimer's people can still enjoy music. Another thing is to just touch her. Hold her hand and speak softly to her. Rub it gently. She can still feel and understand loving touch. Sometimes old family photographs spark something. She is in a different world now. She won't enter yours. Bring yourself into hers. Try these.

It is severe to spend time with people who are ghosts like this. My mom ended up demented too. And, at times, violent. But no matter what, she never forgot that I loved her. You could join a support group. And there are people to talk to: social workers, clergy (if you are religious), close friends, etc. I wish you peace of mind.

My heart hurts for you, its a truly awful illness.

It's important to take all the help and support you can get for yourself as well.

I’m sorry :( Having a parent being physically there but not mentally aware of who you are is the hardest thing a person has to endure

Sad. Very sad. I'm sorry that it's hard for you. *Hugs*