How is everyone doing?

I’m struggling right now. Feel stuck like I’ve never felt before. I don’t know how to get out of this state of mind. Everyone says I have a great positive attitude it that’s because that’s what I want them to see. When I am screaming on the inside. Overwhelmed and feeling tired. Who else is dealing with this or dealt with this. How did you get out of it. I don’t even know where to start. Please only helpful comments

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BigGuy2 · 31-35, M

It may be that your outward shell/positivity is cracking, because your inner self is get'n sick and tired of always being positive and you come up against negative people, you've probably subconsciously said to yourself:

"what about ME"

... as i'm guessing people offload their negativity on you because you are so nice

Sassychick420 · 31-35, F

@BigGuy2 that's a pretty accurate assumption. yup people un load on me all the time family friends and people I don't even know. I guess I'm just one of those people that makes others feel comfortable to express their thoughts to me. idk yes I do sometimes say that and have in the past but I have a good group of people around me family friends and a husband that understands I'm only human and sometimes I need to be the one to unload

BigGuy2 · 31-35, M

@Sassychick420 yep, don't let it get to breaking point before you offload your worries ... be prepared for their backlash, as what you'll find is that the type of people that are happy to offload their troubles onto someone else, are so selfish, they'll say:

"Why are you offloading your problems onto me"

... you need to have the presence of mind to say:

"because you were happy to offload your troubles onto me, it's about time you returned the favour"

Sassychick420 · 31-35, F

@BigGuy2 definitely I still have my moments where I don't want to bother Antone so I just don't sy anything but I'm getting better about it and only talking to the ones who know how to listen