Why do I feel like everyone I meet just wants to take advantage of me?

The feeling is SO strong that I’ve been antisocial for almost 10 years. Idk what to do. I sometimes feel like I’m so self aware of things for example, I will spend almost an hour writing a SMALL paragraph on Facebook about my mental health (kinda like reaching out for help or just trying to see if others can relate) but something in the back of my mind always tells me posting a status on Facebook knowing 100% nobody cares or people are just gonna say “wow this girl is insane” so I waste so much time carefully writing a status for no reason bc i never make it public. Also, when a guy talks to me, my first instinct is, this person just wants to use me for sex or wants to begin manipulating me to get me to believe he likes me. I have a lot of trauma with abandonment issues & being manipulated by many, so I feel like this is part of why I feel like nobody will ever want a sincere connection w/ me. I even go as far as avoiding conversations w/ others because I literally put myself in the others persons shoes and think about how they are judging me negatively but just hiding it from me.

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fakable

because it is true. however, the mechanism of social personal communication is not based on truth, but on an unspoken agreement on the rules of communication in the context of specific social constructs.

in other words, when you start communicating, you begin to play a game. You are shown a mask and you show a mask. The masks agree among themselves and agree or disagree to play on a deeper level of some context.

you do not notice sincerity in such communication, but sincerity exists. sincerity is that many people play sincerely. they believe in their game. yes. they lie, but some do so sincerely. such people can be manipulated, in the sense that you construct together with them a common false construct of reality in which you both sincerely believe.

play sincerely with those who play sincerely with you. it takes some getting used to, but you can learn to, if you need to at all.

it is possible that you play with yourself. when communicating, you automatically put your own mask on the person and see only her. that is you.

KiwiDan · 31-35, M

That sounds like you need actual professional help to work through your issues.

Dan193 · 31-35, M

This a cool pic I found yesterday, maybe it helps u see something that maybe u didnt before and that it could eventually help u past it.

SW-User

I hope you can get the help you need, but you won't get it on here.

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Spoiledbrat · F

It sounds like you have some stuff you need to work through.😖

SW-User

Nothing wrong with seeking human interaction yet having personal boundaries… intelligence and compassion is this regard is rare

Don’t lose heart

There’s always going to be someone who genuinely cares about you even if that someone is just you

Time will eventually lead you to meeting genuine caring folk and it may be online or in real life when you least expect it

Keep going 🕊

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