My philosophy is that we are only wanted if we are pleasing, productive, and harmless. And that is all.
What about kind people? There are many kind people, many who I am eternally grateful for their investments in my life. But I nodded my head to these great people, I work to not be a displeasure for them, well I try at least. Don’t please any of people’s five senses, don’t be productive, and don’t be harmless and you’ll see the results. People want the “best” for you, what does that mean? They want you to be found pleasing, productive, and harmless by others so that you can live with the least pain/negative consequences possible. This doesn’t erase the gratefulness I feel for these people.
Question 2: How can we bring peace to the world? We can decrease discord. Unfortunately the problem is we have 5 senses. These five senses seek satisfaction, and when people are not bringing satisfaction to these senses, well there isn’t peace. We can’t force every brain to be as we want and mold it like play-doh. Through thought and honest communication a lot can be done. Personally, I think the deconstruction of negative labels is the best we can do towards this ideal, which may be an illusion but one worthy of pursuing.
Question 3: How do we bridge the gap between people of different perspectives?
I wish people of different religions (or relationships) didn’t call each other “lost”, “evil”, “hell-bound”. My philosophy on this is not one to disrespect a Creator, at all. Why my philosophy? Because we were told about him, about the reward, the punishment, and his position of power. You know maybe if the notion of a Creator was never taught to us, or thought about we could see who we are genuinely. Not doing things out fear things will go bad if we don’t, not conveniently going after the King of all, who would we be if no one was watching? No one. It is to bring the realization that we only love ourselves and not anything else (hear me out, I know it sounds bad) because we are seeking the greatest power, that can give the greatest protection from the greatest punishment; this is self-preservation. We think we love God because of the benefit (heaven, peace, protection) we obtain or think we can obtain but we wouldn’t go after someone who had nothing to please us with, seen in our daily lives when we run from those who are not pleasing, productive, and harmless. It is my hope that this realization makes people remove their religious bias against others and realize we are all trying to avoid pain, help those who are potentially harmless, and trying to stay alive through finding a way to sustain ourselves.
Question 4: How do you deal with people struggling because they feel like they’re only wanted IF they do what other people want? How can one be so strong that your ego is not affected by how other people look at you?
It is a common struggle for all of us. That is something that can give us strength. Behind the masks, the money, the things, the people that “love” us because we someway or somehow are found pleasing, productive, and harmless to them... is confusion, fear, and desire. Confusion because we didn’t ask to exist, choose our body, mind, the world, or what it contained prior to us being born into it (we work with the raw materials we were born into to create something “new”), we had to adapt to a world of conditional acceptance, of nodding or heads, period. It’s confusing, you ask, “Why?” All people say is “I know what is best for you. Don’t ask any questions”. There is apathetic shallow conversations instead of depth filled thought provoking exchanges in our day to day lives, a lot of the times at least. There is fear of ridicule, fear of situational pain/disturbance that we can’t handle, and death. All our lives we hear, “Don’t do this or you’ll..., if you do that then...” It’s fear instilled. And desire, we have wants from sun up to sunset, it is conflicting desires with others that bring about the war in our personal lives. This realization helps me look at people differently. To laugh, listen, or flat-out admit to them my human qualities: I am selfish, impatient, insecure about this or that, I am human. We all are, pretending we are gods walking on earth is really not being of great benefit in how we treat other people. Take the masks off, have deep conversations, THAT is the life.
And at the end of the day here I am telling YOU what to do. That is all we can do: speak of what we perceive with our senses in the past, present, or future and expect you to listen and respond (this is why I LOVE writing better than speaking, because I’m not forcing you to listen or respond 😊), we talk about what we want (I do that through my writing and my day to day life when I complain), or we tell people what to do or what they “should” do, like I just did through my writing when I suggest having deep conversations. It’s easy to figure out our repetitive patterns when we think about them.
