Jayciedubb · 56-60, M
First, know this. ..you're ok. You're going to be ok until the end. You'll never be in more pain than you can endure. Everything is going to work out. It may or may not work out the way you planned or in your favor, but it will work out and you'll adjust. ..or it will work out in your favor.
Life is a miracle. Enjoy it while it lasts.
Sometimes it helps to remind yourself that on the day you were conceived, there were about 200 million other possibilities but you were the lucky one who found that golden egg.
For the smoking issue. Quit or don't. Trying to quit is just going to lead to more smoking. Quit now and never smoke again, because if you have just one more, even after you've been quit for even a year or more, that ond cigarette will turn into another with a plan of having no more starting tomorrow, then next week, to next month, next year, ..after you finish the pack, ..which will lead to another final pack after the weekend, blah, blah, blah, ..
I had to quit 3 times, and each time was a little harder. I smoked and dipped Copenhagen. I've been tobacco free since 4.20.93 and i still dream about dipping. Sometimes I wake up with a mouth full of spit that I thought was Copenhagen. ..other times i wake up with spit all over my pillow.
What helped me a lot was Trident sugarless gum and lifesavers candy.
Don't take baby steps. They don't work. Sever the connection completely and consider it dead
Keep your chin up. You're going to be ok
Life is a miracle. Enjoy it while it lasts.
Sometimes it helps to remind yourself that on the day you were conceived, there were about 200 million other possibilities but you were the lucky one who found that golden egg.
For the smoking issue. Quit or don't. Trying to quit is just going to lead to more smoking. Quit now and never smoke again, because if you have just one more, even after you've been quit for even a year or more, that ond cigarette will turn into another with a plan of having no more starting tomorrow, then next week, to next month, next year, ..after you finish the pack, ..which will lead to another final pack after the weekend, blah, blah, blah, ..
I had to quit 3 times, and each time was a little harder. I smoked and dipped Copenhagen. I've been tobacco free since 4.20.93 and i still dream about dipping. Sometimes I wake up with a mouth full of spit that I thought was Copenhagen. ..other times i wake up with spit all over my pillow.
What helped me a lot was Trident sugarless gum and lifesavers candy.
Don't take baby steps. They don't work. Sever the connection completely and consider it dead
Keep your chin up. You're going to be ok
OogieBoogie · F
@Jayciedubb i love what you wrote🤗
Although, i do believe in trying - its about picking your battles, but when you have many, sometimes all you can do is conquer one thing, and try for the others.
People achieve in so many different ways. Me, im a developer....i grow into change - its awfully slow😂
- i need to confront the thing and accept it
- then i need to stew on it for a year or so while my mind and heart catches up to my attitude.
- THEN, i start to change, slowly, bit by bit, incorporating that "change" into me, my life, my routines and how i work.
Not saying your incredible attitude is wrong, it DEFINITELY isn't - its just .....well....everybody changes a their own speed, or in their own way.
Some jump in both feet first and hit the ground running.
Some ...need to walk before they can run
💚🤗💜
Although, i do believe in trying - its about picking your battles, but when you have many, sometimes all you can do is conquer one thing, and try for the others.
People achieve in so many different ways. Me, im a developer....i grow into change - its awfully slow😂
- i need to confront the thing and accept it
- then i need to stew on it for a year or so while my mind and heart catches up to my attitude.
- THEN, i start to change, slowly, bit by bit, incorporating that "change" into me, my life, my routines and how i work.
Not saying your incredible attitude is wrong, it DEFINITELY isn't - its just .....well....everybody changes a their own speed, or in their own way.
Some jump in both feet first and hit the ground running.
Some ...need to walk before they can run
💚🤗💜
dragonfly46 · F
Hello, decided to comment because of the smoking.
My 10th anniversary of quitting is in exactly 15 days. On my husbands birthday. Haha, his gift is me living to torture him longer....I digress.
There was never a good time to quit, I did every kind of quitting imaginable. After this pack, won't buy anymore, only bum a cigarette once in awhile, cut down, smoke menthol because I hate menthol. I'd play games with quit days, quit for awhile, then someone would die....
I never found the right time, day, situation or a peaceful day to quit. Knowing after 30 years of smoking, with the last years my heaviest( 13 a day), I was absolutely sure if I did not do it, I swear I'd never quit. Older I got, the harder to quit it became.
So one day, with no planning, and a half a pack of American Spirits left( a true 10 minute cigarette). I just quit. Period. No going back. No choice. One of the hardest things I have ever done. The cravings finally stopped, and my life had had some of the hardest times since I quit, and I didn't pick it back up. I realized reading your essay here that I am at my anniversary. That's how little I think about smoking. It's possible.
I believe that what worked for me is not giving my self a choice. That door shut, it was final. Non negotiable. Done.
My 10th anniversary of quitting is in exactly 15 days. On my husbands birthday. Haha, his gift is me living to torture him longer....I digress.
There was never a good time to quit, I did every kind of quitting imaginable. After this pack, won't buy anymore, only bum a cigarette once in awhile, cut down, smoke menthol because I hate menthol. I'd play games with quit days, quit for awhile, then someone would die....
I never found the right time, day, situation or a peaceful day to quit. Knowing after 30 years of smoking, with the last years my heaviest( 13 a day), I was absolutely sure if I did not do it, I swear I'd never quit. Older I got, the harder to quit it became.
So one day, with no planning, and a half a pack of American Spirits left( a true 10 minute cigarette). I just quit. Period. No going back. No choice. One of the hardest things I have ever done. The cravings finally stopped, and my life had had some of the hardest times since I quit, and I didn't pick it back up. I realized reading your essay here that I am at my anniversary. That's how little I think about smoking. It's possible.
I believe that what worked for me is not giving my self a choice. That door shut, it was final. Non negotiable. Done.
Lilnonames · F