For those of you who see/seen a therapist,

And even more so, those who have been nagged by friends and family to see a therapist,

Have you ever had the same friends and family tell you:

"you better not talk about this with your therapist!"

Or

"You better not be telling your therapist about me!"

I mean, if they are doing something, whatever it is, that is causing you to struggle to cope,

Then what the hell are you supposed to tell your therapist?

And I mean, even if you are the problem and they friends/family members aren't,
Then how is the therapist supposed to help you identify that so you can work on it if you don't tell them anything?

So what the heck was with the nagging me to see a shrink if you don't want me to talk about what's bothering me?

It's like: "we want you to seek help, but don't want you to receive it"

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HumanEarth · F

Back when I was a kid, and I seeing therapist because my father physically beating on us kids and my mom.

That same therapist use that information we all gave him and use it against us. I rather burry it down deep, hide my pain, and let it come out other ways.

Like working too much, ignoring my family, drinking too much and then there's the other ways. Like turnimg to obsessiveness outlets

I will never see or speak to another therapist in my life again.

Fishy · 36-40, F

@HumanEarth wow, I'm really sorry that happened to you 😞

There are a lot of good therapists out there who can work wonders,
But unfortunately, there are also a lot of bad ones who can do a lot of damage.
I myself have had to deal with a few 😖

HumanEarth · F

Yeah, they told said tell us everything. After a while we notice social workers always wanted to talk to us without my mom around. The social workers knew stuff about us that only my mom, us kids and that therapist knew.

They wanted to put us in home, because my mother married an abuser and it was her fault.

That just show the social workers put it (just in nicer way of course)

My grandfather hired a lawyer for my mother and won because Social Services social workers talk to us kids without consent and the therapist gave out information that he shouldn't have