This is your reminder that having a mental illness doesn't absolve you from taking responsibility for your actions.

You do have an amount of control.

When you go around harming people and taking advantage of their empathy, that is on you. You. Not your bipolar, or your cptsd, or your borderline....you are making shit choices. The fact that you can justify them one way or another just shows that you're in control.

Learn from your bad decisions.

Now off to telling my partner that my anxiety attack mean I need to excessively shop. And it is probably the result of no breasts' caresses yesterday and their heavy work schedule.

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BlueVeins · 22-25

This is very true and so important. It feels like shit to cut the line over stuff like that, but it's soooo necessary.

Miram · 31-35, F

@BlueVeins It definently needs be said. Way too many people in this website have been victims of this behaviour espacially.

I am not going to drop names but I have had people share their experiences with me that are clearly traumatized by this sort of acts. Burdened by guilt that's not theirs to bear and struggling to make sense out of someone else's self harm that was brushed as their fault. Traumatized they get anxious every time someone displays similar mindsets.

Even if a person is suffering, they need to acknowledge that punishing someone else for it will not solve it. It creates more hurt.

I have had my own issues with misdirected rage and suicide ideation during which I push people away, and do say hurtful things. It is abusive and it is not okay. The pushing away is only problematic because it made people think they are responsible for my feelings.

While it is true that the world is interconnected and yes, apathy and lack of support does/did play role in my issues, the way I handled it was still irresponsible.

We all need to accept the conflicts in this world. To exist is to reconcile. To live is to make conscious choices for healing.