Oh hell, more unexpected bills my wife doesn't remember...

I never realized her memory is going so badly. A month or two ago we had to come up with $17,000 to cover a credit card she thought she'd been paying off, but evidently hadn't made payments on in years. Then tonight I decided I'd look through the piles of papers she keeps sorting through while watching TV and found another unpaid credit card bill for $16,000, a bill for a card we can't even identify, and a couple of other past due notices I'd never seen. I think I'm going to have to totally take over all bills but I feel like I'm I'm telling her she's no longer competent mentally as I go through the bills. She's always been a take charge person, very competent, but now it seems like it's just getting worse and worse. I feel like I'm losing her.

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Carazaa · F

Addiction kills. Seems she has a shopping addiction. I would cut off her finances until she gets help otherwise you will be homeless. There are shopping addiction self-help groups, and counselors in every town. I would insist on her going every week. And make sure you tell her you must talk with the therapist too so she knows.

ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M

@Carazaa No addiction -- bills like telephone, internet, food, medicines that she thought she paid but didn't realize she'd just set aside for "later" and then never remembered. And I didn't realize she hadn't paid them and that late fees and interest charges were growing into the thousands.

Carazaa · F

@ChipmunkErnie I hope you are correct because that problem is easily fixed, you can handle the finances going forward 🙂