How self sabotage works

When one thing doesn’t work out for you ,
you then use that excuse of “nothing works out for you”. And you start binging on your chaotic behavior again. And you start having self fulfilling prophecy’s And self sabotaging things because you assume it’s not going to work and it doesn’t work because you made it not work.

If you’re self sabotaging I’m calling you out right now and we have to cut the shit. ❤️

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Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M

I've found that with painting and drawing I've taken a much different approach. Because it's such a new thing for me I'm surprised when I do well. I also looked into perfectionism and how it takes the enjoyment out of things and holds us back.

Something that helped was the idea of drawing and painting loosely and letting things come together. There's a passive and meditative aspect to it, allowing things to be as they appear, and in doing so you get out of your own way.

Starting from something that looks nothing like anything and it forming into something, like nature does when something grows feels natural, and the process becomes enjoyable.
I think that's something we could all do to apply to everything in life. It's like buddhism says about letting go, a perfectionist hears "giving up" but it actually means progressing and enjoying. We stop "trying" and start enjoying, we've made the process synomonous with that, and our cultural focus on striving to be better actually gets in the way of doing that.

So it will be a mindful process for me as well, but I hope this helps.

Stark

@Ryannnnnn Thank you for sharing ❤️ This was very helpful stuff. I struggle with perfectionism especially in others and it leaves me feeling alone and with very little to no lasting connections. I have to learn to not be in control of everything in my life and just live and enjoy what comes to me and let it be instead of attempting to alter it in someway fitting this idea I have in my head.