Can Someone With Vulnerable Narcissism...
Still be in a healthy relationship and maintain it despite selfish tendencies?
22-25, M
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I can't say for sure but you are probably [b]not[/b] a narcissist, if you suffered from narcissistic abuse as you say in another comment, you just have a lot of emotional healing to do. I'm not saying this is true in your case, just in cases that people were raised by narcissistic family members, doesn't always mean one is narcissistic. To answer your question, yes you can maintain relationships despite selfish tendencies. Even if you were NPD, you can still get help to develop new coping mechanisms, though can take awhile.
There's this diagnosed narcissist on youtube whose been in therapy for about five years and helps victims of narcissists. He's also married and he has still maintained the relationship despite him being diagnosed so it's not the end all/be all.
Here's the guy I was talking about, I also recommend Dr. Ramani as well.
[youtube=https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f9DkDzSoFRg]
There's this diagnosed narcissist on youtube whose been in therapy for about five years and helps victims of narcissists. He's also married and he has still maintained the relationship despite him being diagnosed so it's not the end all/be all.
Here's the guy I was talking about, I also recommend Dr. Ramani as well.
[youtube=https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f9DkDzSoFRg]
InvictusIndigo · 22-25, M
@SatanBurger This gave me such hope for myself, my brother and my father. Thank you so much 💙💙💙
SatanBurger · 36-40, F
@InvictusIndigo Thanks for the best answer, I'm glad you didn't take it the wrong way, my intention was to only help. I'm not trying to be mean or anything but I wanted to add about your brother and father, it is possible to get help for narcissism though narcissism isn't curable. But don't be surprised if your brother and father don't want to or manipulate you if you try to get them help if they do have NPD. That's why if you go into therapy, you have to be prepared to only do it for yourself because you want to get better. Also, you want a therapist online or offline who specializes in personality disorders, there could be books to read too.
I only say you can control what YOU can control because other people are right, people who have NPD rarely get help and when they do, it is to manipulate or they'll get help but push you away after. You may be disappointed if you try to get your brother and father to get help and they really fight hard against you.
It's NOT you if that happens, just wanted to say that.. to have realistic expectations of your father/brother.
I only say you can control what YOU can control because other people are right, people who have NPD rarely get help and when they do, it is to manipulate or they'll get help but push you away after. You may be disappointed if you try to get your brother and father to get help and they really fight hard against you.
It's NOT you if that happens, just wanted to say that.. to have realistic expectations of your father/brother.