What keeps you going?

I'm specifically directing this question to the men but girls, feel free to answer if you like. The reason is because a lot of us men do not have anyone we can count on. Who do we go to when we feel trapped? When we're depressed? When it feels like the world has turned its back on. The answer? No one. Well usually. So I ask, what is keeping you going?

I'm not sure this really answers the question for my situation but here goes. My current goal. My current goal is self improvement. I've started with weight lifting and basic grooming. I want to get in shape not only to feel good about myself but to become more attractive. I realize the state I am in I am not appealing to the opposite sex. I see women, beautiful women all the time and I think to myself "Man I wish I could have a gal like that by my side." I tell myself, if I want that for myself, I've got to do better. I've got to be better. I've got to transform myself into that guy that everyone wants to be.

I don't know where else I'll go from here, but I figured weight training is a good start. I'm glad I took this path, I feel awesome after every workout. Yah its hard making myself go, always try to find an excuse not to go but 90% of the time I make myself go and I've never regretted it once.

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TinyViolins · 31-35, M

I keep going because there's still room to grow. I've always felt like an incomplete work, like a puzzle that hasn't been fully solved. The longer I live, the more I learn, the more that I reflect and write; it makes it feel like I'm reclaiming the parts of myself that had been stolen from me or broken.

As much of a cold dagger through the heart that chronic loneliness can be, there are moments of warmth that give you hope that there can be a better tomorrow. Whether it's seeing a smile on your dog's face, getting commended for the work you do, making the people around you laugh, or helping someone out of a jam, it's those brief instances of connection that remind you how life can be beautiful if you can learn to appreciate it. You don't need another person for that.

JestAJester · 31-35, M

@TinyViolins I especially like that last portion. Yes whole heartedly agree. I want to be that guy people depend on. I want to be that guy that you go to for help or advice. I think I tend to repel people. I really try hard to be as friendly as I can be. Yah the loneliness has been a major contributor to how I turned out but I'm finally fighting back. I'm finally trying to make something of myself. Trying to earn that someone special.