What keeps you going?

I'm specifically directing this question to the men but girls, feel free to answer if you like. The reason is because a lot of us men do not have anyone we can count on. Who do we go to when we feel trapped? When we're depressed? When it feels like the world has turned its back on. The answer? No one. Well usually. So I ask, what is keeping you going?

I'm not sure this really answers the question for my situation but here goes. My current goal. My current goal is self improvement. I've started with weight lifting and basic grooming. I want to get in shape not only to feel good about myself but to become more attractive. I realize the state I am in I am not appealing to the opposite sex. I see women, beautiful women all the time and I think to myself "Man I wish I could have a gal like that by my side." I tell myself, if I want that for myself, I've got to do better. I've got to be better. I've got to transform myself into that guy that everyone wants to be.

I don't know where else I'll go from here, but I figured weight training is a good start. I'm glad I took this path, I feel awesome after every workout. Yah its hard making myself go, always try to find an excuse not to go but 90% of the time I make myself go and I've never regretted it once.

Top | Newest First | Oldest First

TinyViolins · 31-35, M

I keep going because there's still room to grow. I've always felt like an incomplete work, like a puzzle that hasn't been fully solved. The longer I live, the more I learn, the more that I reflect and write; it makes it feel like I'm reclaiming the parts of myself that had been stolen from me or broken.

As much of a cold dagger through the heart that chronic loneliness can be, there are moments of warmth that give you hope that there can be a better tomorrow. Whether it's seeing a smile on your dog's face, getting commended for the work you do, making the people around you laugh, or helping someone out of a jam, it's those brief instances of connection that remind you how life can be beautiful if you can learn to appreciate it. You don't need another person for that.

JestAJester · 31-35, M

@TinyViolins I especially like that last portion. Yes whole heartedly agree. I want to be that guy people depend on. I want to be that guy that you go to for help or advice. I think I tend to repel people. I really try hard to be as friendly as I can be. Yah the loneliness has been a major contributor to how I turned out but I'm finally fighting back. I'm finally trying to make something of myself. Trying to earn that someone special.

CassandraSissy · 26-30, T

Take away the negatives; Put all your stuff out - including food - the night before so all you have to do is pick it up and go, sweetie. We have finite levels of decision-making in us before we feel tired...take that out of the equation and it'll be easier...

😉

Me? A few things helps me. Music being one - keep on going until a certain new album is released helps me go over any rough patches in the short term (eagerly awaiting the new Carrie Underwood album is keeping me on the straight and narrow currently, as an example...), having my fella around who's a big motivator type...erhhh....I do pole dancing as a hobby so it's nice to spend an hour or two just doing that...and, as a foodie, I'm thinking of just what to eat/cook next!

It all helps. Likewise being around work colleagues who I've just been reacquainted with, thanks to the covid/home working years, and friends makes it all fun....

That's what helps me....

Keep up the good work, sweetie.....and you'll get the gal of your dreams!

😘

666Maggotz ·

I think it’s cute that you think it’s different for women. I feel nothing but alone in this world. Anyway, I believe in reincarnation. In many of my past lives, I have died tragically young. I want to break that cycle.

JestAJester · 31-35, M

@666Maggotz Never said that. don't put words in my mouth.

666Maggotz ·

@JestAJester “the reason is because a lot us men have no one we can count on.”

And women automatically do? That’s hilarious 😂

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

You're asking a bunch of introverts about extroverted behavior!

The matter of gender is irrelevant.

Spoiledbrat · F

Just be yourself 🙂

Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M

Nothing

Add a comment...