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Can somebody tell me, how to unlove someone? How do I detach myself from someone that has been part of my life but is making me feel unwanted and doesn't even care? I'm the only one waiting for replies and wanting attention, while he doesn't even realize that I need him. Please help me~

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basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M

You should practice self care, be a while on your own and work through it. It's not easy, but time helps. Do stuff you always wanted to do.
It sounds weird, but - date yourself.
Do fun things for yourself and with family and friends.

Mariee · 26-30, F

@basilfawlty89 Realizations made me think that I totally forgot who I am. I have lost myself trying to love someone and I despise myself for that.

basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M

@Mariee don't hate yourself, it happens. But do learn from it.

Mariee · 26-30, F

@basilfawlty89 I hate myself because I exactly know what to do but I am not doing it.

basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M

@Mariee what is it you feel you need to do?

Mariee · 26-30, F

@basilfawlty89 I know that I should leave and just broke up with him.

basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M

@Mariee creating distance will be the best option, yes. If your relationship isn't dampened by bitterness, infidelity or abuse, you could become friends later, but it will take time.

Mariee · 26-30, F

@basilfawlty89 So this advise means I have to leave, right?

basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M

@Mariee if you feel that's the right move. Otherwise, you need to have a very serious chat with him about his treatment of you, and if he then doesn't make any effort, leave.

Mariee · 26-30, F

@basilfawlty89 You are a man, right? Can you be honest with me, regarding to my story, does it mean that he doesn't love me? I mean for you, if you don't love the person do you do these things too?

basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M

@Mariee I am a man, yes. No I wouldn't, I wouldn't distance myself from someone unless they really did something bad to hurt me. I can't say whether or not he loves you, as I didn't know him, but I know wouldn't treat someone like that.

Mariee · 26-30, F

@basilfawlty89 I didn't do anything to hurt him. I am doing my part as his partner and I am being a good person to him.

basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M

@Mariee then he's just a jackass. I'd dump him. But that's just my personal opinion.

Mariee · 26-30, F

@basilfawlty89 I am scared that if I leave now with all these feelings that I have for him, I will be loosing it all at the end. I am scared that if I am the who will leave first I will end up wanting him again and again. I am too scared

basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M

@Mariee but is staying better? If you're miserable, it's better to be single and happy instead of in a miserable relationship.