I drive myself crazy wondering why

I don't ask for contact from my wife. (She just doesn't like it.) It's a lot of suffering though. I try to put others before myself, but it's hard to understand why it has to be this way. Maybe if I was more attractive she would want to touch me. Maybe I just think too much.

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PoetryNEmotion · F

The fault lays with her. Why are you staying with someone who does not love you? Are you afraid to be free? Love yourself enough to fivorce. You know if you stay , you wait until you die or she dies, meanwhile living unhappily. Do you not love yourself ? When will you learn?

Freetime · 56-60, M

@PoetryNEmotion I think I have convinced myself that I don't deserve good things.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@Freetime Then stay in that prison forever. I cannot help your self esteem. I can tell you you are wasting your life. All those years gone. You can change how you think. You csn change your circumstances. Only you can.

WalterF · 70-79, M

@PoetryNEmotion You cannot say that she does not love him just because she doesn’t like physical contact.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@WalterF I can say whstever I please. Often those who refuse do not love. They like the security of s marriage without the efforts. Hsve you ever experienced a sexless marriage? If you haven't, you know nothing about them.

WalterF · 70-79, M

@PoetryNEmotion Of course you can say whatever you please; but you can also accept that your opinion may be contested. Especially when it is a repeated, outspoken condemnation of a wife that you do not know.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@WalterF What is your interest in this? Lack of intimacy is a serious topic. Either discuss it or leave. You either have lived it or not. Refusers are mostly the ones at fault. The ones who stay unhappily are staying out of fear and/ or obligation. Neither is positive. I have both lived it and researched this extensively. So my thoughts do matter. Prrhaps you are a refuser? Who knows? So talk or leave. You are like someone who comes to a pool dressed to swim and stands there staring.

WalterF · 70-79, M

@PoetryNEmotion Rude, aren't you. I won't discuss further with you.