My Story Isn't Necessarily Typical I know I will probably get a lot of flack for this, but I...

lovingdead · 31-35, M

I understand a lot of the sentiment, but are you ever saved?

Granted I get trauma and issues, but let's say a knight shows up, say you're together for a year or so ...if he came in as a knight, how does he feel? Ideally (if he has any merit in knighthood) hell try everything he can to vanquish your monsters or whatever is troubling you.

And after a year he knows you're still struggling, maybe he gets quiet and distant trying to wrack his brain on what he can do differently. Feeling that he's failing you.

And you take his quietness as un-interest and leave.

It's a self fulfilling prophecy on both ends.

Hence why they say relationships formed in times of stress are built on rocky foundations.

But that's just my guess/Interpretation/projection.

And you're not pathetic, you yourself said people long for such things, that were not meant to be alone....

That's like saying we all have to breathe, then calling yourself pathetic for doing it.

KingofBones1 · 46-50, M

Speaking from experience long distance relationship require a little bit of extra effort to make them work. They have to have real-world impact to a certain point for them to feel like a real relationship instead of just a long distance cyber partner. What I mean by real world impact is there has to be an occasional trip to see each other, there has to be celebrations together on birthdays Christmases etc and there has to be sometime of tangible communication like on the phone or letters etc for it to have any reality to it. It requires effort by both people to keep this going until at some point you can come together. Otherwise it is doing to fail. Also in my opinion some of the insecurities comes from not having that person there or reinforcing enough their feelings for you. And you need to do the same for them as well otherwise perhaps they might drift off that sometimes happens. I myself drifted off because of that reason before. The person was just not having any real world impact in my life and therefore I saw no point.

Tastyfrzz · 61-69, M

Dealing with episodes of impulsiveness, rage, paranoia, or depression by someone with borderline personality disorder is difficult. That you can talk about it is a good thing. I'm not sure that one can "treat" something like this with medications but being aware of it and trusting your partner to help keep you grounded might work. Basically, I think you need to find a laid back caretaker with a lot of patience and do a lot of hugging. I think that if you try having relationships with stronger personalities you will just end up throwing shoes and boxes of mac and cheese at each other.

Justafantasy · M

Half of that sounds familiar.

thewindupbirdchronicles · 46-50, M

Anyways, my heart is broken and I feel like relationships in general are destined for failure for the simple fact that, romantic relationships are based on emotion. The reason I say this is because without romantic emotions for that person, the relationship falls flat and there's no more reason to be there.

Romantic relationships need emotional attachment passion, and lust to thrive and nobody can tell me any different. So, here I am trying not to cry...feeling heartbroken,...waiting to be saved by my next Knight.

It's these parts that matter. But you are not someone to be saved or looking for a knight, though many here will sign themselves up this way, and the patterns of broken relationships becomes just as foreshadowed as can be seen from an outside perspective.

Miram · 31-35, F

No flack from me.
Only hoping you stay safe, put yourself first and find what truly makes you happy. We don't all have to be the same.

Edit, oh and be honest about your intentions with other peeps.

You will be fine.

JRVanguard · 26-30, M

It can be difficult but I’m sure there’s someone out there who can give and match exactly what you need in a relationship and I hope you find that🤗

Edit:
Also solid username

PepsiColaP

You're not pathetic but you should probably find smth else to obsess over other than relationships and men ,preferably a hobby or a career etc.

dale74 · M

I kinda prefer being single vs dealing with heart break or being cheated on. Don't mistake me I am happier in a relationship just don't know if it is worth it.