Let's talk, how's your love life lately?

@GoFish hey.. sorry to hear that.. You also observe something similar? ...or what do you mean?

@Boeing ay i'll inbox you ☺

@1490wayb hmm sometimes, Gods plan, I don't know... You could perhaps go to some club and meet someone, even if only for dates and walks and see.. but most probably you have entertained the thought already.. I don't know

@Boeing i would have to move from this small sleepy town

@1490wayb hm I see... but then sometimes, you only need to change an approach, to change a perspective.
Moving would make it easier of course

@chasingMonday well I have cats, and my art and caring for things I love, maybe yo too can find some love in your life..uhm

@CrazyMusicLover I imagine that the psychological effect will vary from woman to woman. Some live sexless lives quite happily, some against their will, some suppress desire and replace it with good works or a contemplative life in a nunnery. Some have sex in their imagination and that is as good or better than the 'real' thing.

@CrazyMusicLover You should wash your bird more 😌🤭

@Iknowyourouttheresomewhere I didn't even buy one yet. 🥲

@Boeing
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@Northwest yes I was getting shoulder dislocations often, not because of sex of course, but my first martial arts teacher pointed that out to me, once he asked me if my boyfriend is bringing too much stress at home.

@Boeing
I'm sure the martial arts had nothing to with it.

@Boeing Most of us have ebbs and flows in out life. Sometimes when in one or other, it seems things will never change.
Further, something which seems important, even essential, at one point in life seems less so at another stage.
Optimism and patience are both attributes which should be cultivated. "The only constant is change.
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@Boeing Hmm.
- relaxed about it: pretty much
- traveling and exploring: I'm actually not as adventurous as it seems, as far as sex is concerned it's only in the UK. So far at least.
- and meeting your needs: sometimes. It's more complicated finding a sexual partner than it at first appears even on a website dedicated to no strings meetings.
- and fulfilling your desires: not as often as I'd like

Love, or a fair facsimile, has a way of ambushing one. I thought that after forty faithful years with the same person that I would be over all that. Then despite originally just hooking up for sex I had what i can only describe as an affair with @Lancer17 and when it ended due to his ill health (at least that's what he said) I was as devastated as any teenager being dumped for the first time.

@ninalanyon oh no... heartbreaks ...do not remind me!
Perhaps I got an insight now! perhaps that's about it: less heartbreak = better health. Could as well be it.

yes you are right, things are always more complicated than we want to narrate them to be..and especially love making, and whatever this brings, some people wanting more attachment, some none, and all in between.......

@Theyitis oh no.. not even for a little while..? never ever...

@Boeing Nope, not for a minute, not even back in middle school. None of the women or girls I’ve been attracted to were ever attracted to me. I just found out two years ago that I’m on the autism spectrum, so that probably has something to do with it. I think I’m really weird and awkward. I have had some dates over the years, but no one would ever agree to be in a steady relationship with me.

@kodiac lots of old married people also use that same service lol

@GoFish 😅

@PatientlyWaiting25 I’m glad that I read before posting. And you definitely nailed it with not rushing to find just anyone!

@Boeing at the end of the day we're just souls on a journey; everything else is just extra

@crownedwithlaurel97 thank you, that is softening it all ❤ that is the truth... and yet the journey oh is so much enriched with love.. Love is everywhere of course, and I try that, to keep my heart open, to God, and to all kind of love... I have lit a candle and its warm light is doing something here too...:)

@Boeing that's beautiful

@Teslin yes it is a coincidence but also is not. Because I have changed a lot of things, not only that.
I've completely shifted my lifestyle too.. But still, it is the first time in my life I am going such long time without, and strangely, the more without, the more vibrant I become. Perhaps it is the age too, almost 40s and feeling good. Who knows.

As about you, yes I can understand, I hate medicine, have looked if there is something alternative more directly derived from plants? I remember a plant in Nepal that would treat similar issues, and increase the appetite overall, but they had to go hiking in particular places in order to find it... I do not recall the name!

Thank you @Boeing. If you ever remember the name of that plant, let me know. I could go for a nice hike. Or see where I might obtain it.
I am happy for you. You seem happy living your life as things go along naturally.