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ArtistMoon · 31-35, F
@Royricky09 it is
@ArtistMoon nope it's not rare.... It's everywhere. One should know how to look for it and feel it....
ArtistMoon · 31-35, F
@Royricky09 alright
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Tastyfrzz · 61-69, M
Is love real, or is it just lust?
This is actually a rather complicated question. Both are real, yes, but one can love without sexual or emotional release. I believe that It does depend on the situation and the expectations. An attachment with another person is definitely a long term expression of love. I think that if one has desire and romantic intentions combined with that attachment though it can be strengthened/cemented or faded depending on if those desires (lusts) are fulfilled. Unless there has been a lot of energy expended to sustain an attachment it will soon fade. Like trying to raise roses that refuse to bloom. One can always hope but without a return on the investment why would one risk wasting any more effort on it? Is it a hobby or an undertaking? An endeavor or a boondoggle?
Why would you want to continue to allow yourself to be ignored? You will realize that your resources are limited and time is going by. You may be mocked or applauded for your effort. Internally you will feel hysteria or frustration. The question is if will you have the strength to endure the rejection? If others are involved in the relationship, it may continue only for their sake and the attachments created with them.
In my experience indifference, unrequited love/rejected advances are very painful. So do not assume that they can or will continue. This may be the desired response and hopefully that is communicated. Within an existing relationship though, It will signal the end of what was assumed to be allowable. Be aware though that it will likely lead to what will be perceived as unfaithfulness or betrayal and this in turn will result in painful deconstruction, disolution, and/or reformation of the relationship.
On the other hand, a consentual relationship purely based on lust with strangers without an understanding of the events leading up to it; to me, is typically unfulfilling. It is like buying silk flowers. The effort to obtain it feels sadly wasted. It is not yet really a crime but can be treated as such. However. I believe that If the importance of the event is acknowledged by the parties involved, it can be a beautiful experience.
Sorry for being so long winded on this but it has been on my mind for a while.
This is actually a rather complicated question. Both are real, yes, but one can love without sexual or emotional release. I believe that It does depend on the situation and the expectations. An attachment with another person is definitely a long term expression of love. I think that if one has desire and romantic intentions combined with that attachment though it can be strengthened/cemented or faded depending on if those desires (lusts) are fulfilled. Unless there has been a lot of energy expended to sustain an attachment it will soon fade. Like trying to raise roses that refuse to bloom. One can always hope but without a return on the investment why would one risk wasting any more effort on it? Is it a hobby or an undertaking? An endeavor or a boondoggle?
Why would you want to continue to allow yourself to be ignored? You will realize that your resources are limited and time is going by. You may be mocked or applauded for your effort. Internally you will feel hysteria or frustration. The question is if will you have the strength to endure the rejection? If others are involved in the relationship, it may continue only for their sake and the attachments created with them.
In my experience indifference, unrequited love/rejected advances are very painful. So do not assume that they can or will continue. This may be the desired response and hopefully that is communicated. Within an existing relationship though, It will signal the end of what was assumed to be allowable. Be aware though that it will likely lead to what will be perceived as unfaithfulness or betrayal and this in turn will result in painful deconstruction, disolution, and/or reformation of the relationship.
On the other hand, a consentual relationship purely based on lust with strangers without an understanding of the events leading up to it; to me, is typically unfulfilling. It is like buying silk flowers. The effort to obtain it feels sadly wasted. It is not yet really a crime but can be treated as such. However. I believe that If the importance of the event is acknowledged by the parties involved, it can be a beautiful experience.
Sorry for being so long winded on this but it has been on my mind for a while.
MrSmooTh · 31-35, M
It's real.
Ambroseguy80 · 56-60, M
Depends on who’s doing the loving I suppose.
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
Nothing wrong with lust.
Sutten · 41-45, F
Love is real, unique for everyone, lust is fleeting and surface-level.
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GeminiRain · M
True love is real, lust is just a squandered emotion
Likestoenjoylife · 51-55, M
If you dont know the difference it aint love!
bijouxbroussard · F
Two different things, but both very real.
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DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
Love in English combines many types of emotions. This combining of emotions unfortunately was a result of church doctrines.
Ferise1 · 46-50, M
Women who talk about love seem to always include lust