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Is there a future with her?

I’m a 27 years old educator who just finished my first year of teaching. During my first year, I met a very beautiful, amazing, and gorgeous co-worker. She and I developed this friendship that leads to a romantic relationship. The problem is that she is married with three kids. We had been seeing each other for over six months now. She loves me and I love her. I truly believe that we are meant for each other. She wants to divorce her husband so we can build a life together.
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KingofBones1 · 46-50, M
If she truly means what she says and is working towards that then yes those things do take time and perhaps she is maneuvering slowly for the sake of the children which is understandable when there are children involved you can't just cut loose. But as long as she is planning and initiating the process give her time. The only time I would start questioning things was if the behavior was different than the promises and words she was telling you then I would start to wonder otherwise I would say if you really love her let it ride
KingofBones1 · 46-50, M
@LightningThief sorry brother I was just trying to answer respectfully but did not mean to overstep
LightningThief · 26-30, MNew
@KingofBones1 no worry.
KingofBones1 · 46-50, M
@LightningThief thank you I was just trying to defend something that I thought was beautiful
BamPow · 51-55, MNew
This is how people end up as the subjects of podcasts.

Seriously though, think about what this future is going to actually look like if you both follow through. She has three kids, and those kids are going to have thoughts and feelings about their parents splitting. As someone who went through this as a kid many moons ago, you could find yourself as public enemy #1 with one, two, or all three of her kids. Plus, she’s going to be on a roller coaster throughout. Right now, you’re in the fantasy stage where love cures all and fixes everything. The reality of a divorce (especially one involving children) is much different.
Sevendays · M
Be careful. She could be a ‘grass is greener “ type.

Another thought as that this might be so exciting because it is a challenge to you. I’ve known someone who loved taking women away from their husbands, swearing that he loved them. Once he had them it was no longer the case and he moved on to another victim.
Wow, that's my sister's story. Sept, he was already single. I recommend timing it the same way she did
Just remember, if she’ll do it with you she’ll do it to you.

And then we’ll be reading a post from her next guy asking the same question.
rhouse · 56-60, M
The only future is if she files for divorce. I think she is stringing you along. You will be there as long as she can convince you that she "wants" a divorce.
romell · 51-55, M
Difficult to comment because it involves 4 people not to forget the fifth being ex husband..
lwshm64 · 56-60, F
@romell exactly
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Nibblesnarf · 26-30, M
If she'd date outside her marriage, split her family, and divorce her husband to get with another guy (her new "flavor of the decade", perhaps), who's to say she wouldn't do the same to you someday?
@Nibblesnarf
PinkMoon · 26-30, F
This post was a rollercoaster of emotions. First I was afraid you were talking about falling for a student, then I saw coworker and I felt relief and then I saw that she is married with 3 kids at which point I felt disgust. It pains me to think a teacher can be this stupid. You're a young man with a degree and a job. You're an eligible bachelor who can find a single woman without any children to fall in love with. Someone you can start your own life with. Do you really want to be the step dad to 3 children whose lives you're currently damaging? All you care about is how good you guys make each other feel,fuck the husband and those 3 kids right? She doesn't love you,she doesn't even love her children enough to not give them psychological trauma by disrupting their childhood with her selfish lust. Newsflash dummy, if she's willing to betray her husband and 3 children she'll betray you in a heartbeat. She doesn't love you,she loves how you make her feel and the minute she stops feeling good she'll just fall in love with someone else.
Convivial · 26-30, F
Try and see I guess
YoMomma ·
Sounds like trouble
ToLivePeacefully · 31-35, M
Sorry to say, She's a cheater, and you're aren't any better.

Even if you have a future with each other it will only last until you or her finds someone else to start the cycle again.
CactusJackManson · 51-55, M
co-worker
The problem is that she is married with three kids

What could possibly go wrong?
WolfNight8 · M
@CactusJackManson move on man
CactusJackManson · 51-55, M
@WolfNight8 From what?
WolfNight8 · M
@CactusJackManson my bad meant to tag the guy who posed this

@LightningThief move on find another woman are you ok w/ wrecking a family? find a single good woman.
Prettybratbi1tch · 26-30, F
Wow what could go wrong?
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lwshm64 · 56-60, F
she is cheating and you are helping her SORRY WRONG she is willing to do it to her husband she will do it with you. BE A MAN and move on.
Jenny1234 · 56-60, F
Nah find your own woman
Bad idea to start that.
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AthrillatheHunt · 51-55, M
Are you a man or a woman
LightningThief · 26-30, MNew
@AthrillatheHunt man. Just fixed my profile
AthrillatheHunt · 51-55, M
@LightningThief I’m in Ed too. Had a buddy in your same shoes years ago. They were both married w kids and had a brief affair . I caution you against it
1490wayb · 56-60, M
no way!! the excitment will die
Elisbch · M
@1490wayb

And it'll get very complicated... and not in a good way.
Sounds like a future episode of "48 Hours".
RedBaron · M
There could be. Unless, of course, there isn’t.
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