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Hello everyone, so I wrote about this guy I met back in 2023, and have had very strong feelings for him since then. But couldn’t bring myself to tell him.
I figured he had felt the same way because the way that he was with me. I had a strong connection with him, I’d be able to tell when he was about to walk into the room even when I had no idea. My eyes would just find him even if I didn’t know he was there. I never felt so strongly about any man in my entire life. He is very special to me.

Recently he invited me to another event for his company, I went and me and him spoke very briefly. But it was all I wanted after not seeing him for almost a year. I crave attention from this man. I’ve tried to forget and move on, but no one else I meet will ever be him. And I’m not trying to compare anyone I deal with, because no one deserves to be compared to other people.

Anyways, what I’m asking is it weird? I signed up for another event, the most recent one I went to although we talked, didn’t go so well. I didn’t even tell him bye. My family thinks it’s weird that I still like this guy and am chasing after him in a way. I’ve tried to forget, I don’t wanna be weird. I just feel like there’s a bond between me and him thats so hard to explain… it’s just you have to be there to see what I mean.. is it weird? To have liked someone so much for this long and not pursue anything with them? Is it weird to keep popping up ? Ugh, I just wanna be around him all the time…

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Edashh2399 · 26-30, F

Hi guys, thanks for responding. My feelings are all over the place right now. I don’t want to feel like the world revolves around me but most of you are right. I need a hobby or something. I got a work from home job and kinda just been stuck in the house. I don’t have a lot of friends, I have one best friend who I confide in. I just needed to talk to someone because the thoughts were eating me up over here, my one confidant keeps encouraging me to go back but I needed a different perspective.
Thank you all for being honest. Feel free to keep giving advice, I am genuinely open to all of it.

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Edashh2399 · 26-30, F

@SStarfish lol girl, still so much more than me I literally ran away from this guy instead of telling him how I felt ! I admire that level of confidence still 😊

SStarfish ·

@Edashh2399 i had a secret crush since i was 7 and i wrote him when i was 19 but he never replied 😅

Edashh2399 · 26-30, F

@SStarfish that’s okay girl, at least you tried! Better will come for you ❤❤❤

Kodel · 26-30, M

Honestly, I'd say a fair few men have the same experience with particular women. We meet a women that catches our attention in some way and we become infatuated. Believe me, it's not weird. It's just a very powerful connection; something men and women feel. It's just EXTREMELY rare that that level of connection is mutual.

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Edashh2399 · 26-30, F

@Kodel I haven’t shared everything, there’s a reason I think he likes me back. When I worked for him, he accidentally made it clear he felt something for me. Or maybe he just thought I was attractive? What I’m saying is, there’s definitely a reason why I believe he may be into me.

Edashh2399 · 26-30, F

And yes you’re right

Kodel · 26-30, M

@Edashh2399 If that's the case, have you tried pursuing something more with him? If you constantly want to be around him and you feel this intense connection, I know it might sound scary, but maybe tell him that. It can feel more comfortable living in the reality we imagine but sadly, our dreams never come true like this. Do you believe that you will try to pursue something with him? Either by telling him what you've shared with us or by expressing your feelings in another way? Or will you leave things as they are?

SStarfish ·

Idk last time i was obsessed with a guy for 30 years and he didn't like me at all so idk what to say to you. If this is good or bad for you to be feeling/thinking this way.. if he has business all over the place he is probably busy.. who knows if he likes you or not.. maybe maybe not.. who can say but him? Shrugs i'm not one to really give you advice here just caution.. sometimes the world doesn't revolve around us and we have to let things go.. namely fancies of love 😳

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SStarfish ·

@Edashh2399 yeah it can be complicated with work relations

Edashh2399 · 26-30, F

@SStarfish I will figure it out, thanks so much for your response. I’ve genuinely been sad for days about this.

SStarfish ·

@Edashh2399 aww well hope you figure something out 😊

NaughtyPickle · M

Why suffer for a man who doesn’t seem as interested in you as you are in him ? Forget him ! There’s over 7 billion people in this world and I’m very sure you will find a guy thsts loving and treats you well

Edashh2399 · 26-30, F

@NaughtyPickle yes that’s true, and I think that might be a good way to think about it. But I didn’t mean to paint him in that light, he’s not uncaring or anything like that. I wouldn’t even think about him if he was indifferent toward me.

invisiblewoman · 36-40, F

It's weird.
If he felt the same way, you would know.

deathfairy ·

this is what lust feels like. it puts u into ur fullest senses and wakes everything up.

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Edashh2399 · 26-30, F

@deathfairy that does make a lot of sense as well, I’ve often wondered if he felt what I felt or if he just thought I was pretty.
Sometimes I feel like he’s exuding that type of energy, I have witnessed him involuntarily take a step toward me in a very similar way that I have to him. One time I just moved toward him, I didn’t even mean to do it. I saw him do the same when I entered the room one day, he was in the middle of a meeting so I know it wasn’t something he did consciously.

It’s just moments like that that are so hard to forget about. I’ve never had a connection like that w anyone in my entire life I don’t think. It’s truly interesting how ppl work.

ImNotHungry · 36-40, M

@deathfairy

don’t put words into my mouth because male lust and female lust feel very different.

how do you know?

deathfairy ·

all i will say is, follow your own intuition and your gut. don’t listen to me or others, if it feels right, then follow your feelings. they never lie, ik this world teaches us not to follow our emotions, but our emotions are the truest invisible language of the universe. (that’s why you rarely see animals dead in natural disasters, they are fully tapped into their feelings and will always listen to their gut and get themselves to safety)

the more you listen to yourself, the clearer you will understand yourself. just because i say it’s lust, doesn’t mean you should avoid him, protect urself (be on bc, don’t get pregnant) go slow, if you notice red flags don’t ignore them, and overall, just enjoy ur life. ur allowed to follow your heart and to be attracted to men. women are allowed to be sexual with whoever they want. @Edashh2399

lol @ImNotHungry

Ditto · M

Wtf? Are You child? >:I

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