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Hello everyone, so I wrote about this guy I met back in 2023, and have had very strong feelings for him since then. But couldn’t bring myself to tell him.
I figured he had felt the same way because the way that he was with me. I had a strong connection with him, I’d be able to tell when he was about to walk into the room even when I had no idea. My eyes would just find him even if I didn’t know he was there. I never felt so strongly about any man in my entire life. He is very special to me.

Recently he invited me to another event for his company, I went and me and him spoke very briefly. But it was all I wanted after not seeing him for almost a year. I crave attention from this man. I’ve tried to forget and move on, but no one else I meet will ever be him. And I’m not trying to compare anyone I deal with, because no one deserves to be compared to other people.

Anyways, what I’m asking is it weird? I signed up for another event, the most recent one I went to although we talked, didn’t go so well. I didn’t even tell him bye. My family thinks it’s weird that I still like this guy and am chasing after him in a way. I’ve tried to forget, I don’t wanna be weird. I just feel like there’s a bond between me and him thats so hard to explain… it’s just you have to be there to see what I mean.. is it weird? To have liked someone so much for this long and not pursue anything with them? Is it weird to keep popping up ? Ugh, I just wanna be around him all the time…

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SStarfish ·

Idk last time i was obsessed with a guy for 30 years and he didn't like me at all so idk what to say to you. If this is good or bad for you to be feeling/thinking this way.. if he has business all over the place he is probably busy.. who knows if he likes you or not.. maybe maybe not.. who can say but him? Shrugs i'm not one to really give you advice here just caution.. sometimes the world doesn't revolve around us and we have to let things go.. namely fancies of love 😳

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SStarfish ·

@Edashh2399 yeah it can be complicated with work relations

Edashh2399 · 26-30, F

@SStarfish I will figure it out, thanks so much for your response. I’ve genuinely been sad for days about this.

SStarfish ·

@Edashh2399 aww well hope you figure something out 😊

Kodel · 26-30, M

Honestly, I'd say a fair few men have the same experience with particular women. We meet a women that catches our attention in some way and we become infatuated. Believe me, it's not weird. It's just a very powerful connection; something men and women feel. It's just EXTREMELY rare that that level of connection is mutual.

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Kodel · 26-30, M

@Edashh2399 There's nothing wrong with hoping but I speak from experience when I say that typically, you would know for certain if someone felt that way about you, unless you are horrendously naive. It's definitely good to have things that you are passionate about. Relationships are great but they can also be our undoing. It's best to save our energy for someone who will reciprocate that passion.

Edashh2399 · 26-30, F

@Kodel I haven’t shared everything, there’s a reason I think he likes me back. When I worked for him, he accidentally made it clear he felt something for me. Or maybe he just thought I was attractive? What I’m saying is, there’s definitely a reason why I believe he may be into me.

Edashh2399 · 26-30, F

And yes you’re right

Edashh2399 · 26-30, F

Hi guys, thanks for responding. My feelings are all over the place right now. I don’t want to feel like the world revolves around me but most of you are right. I need a hobby or something. I got a work from home job and kinda just been stuck in the house. I don’t have a lot of friends, I have one best friend who I confide in. I just needed to talk to someone because the thoughts were eating me up over here, my one confidant keeps encouraging me to go back but I needed a different perspective.
Thank you all for being honest. Feel free to keep giving advice, I am genuinely open to all of it.

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Edashh2399 · 26-30, F

@SStarfish lol girl, still so much more than me I literally ran away from this guy instead of telling him how I felt ! I admire that level of confidence still 😊

SStarfish ·

@Edashh2399 i had a secret crush since i was 7 and i wrote him when i was 19 but he never replied 😅

Edashh2399 · 26-30, F

@SStarfish that’s okay girl, at least you tried! Better will come for you ❤❤❤

NaughtyPickle · M

Why suffer for a man who doesn’t seem as interested in you as you are in him ? Forget him ! There’s over 7 billion people in this world and I’m very sure you will find a guy thsts loving and treats you well

Edashh2399 · 26-30, F

@NaughtyPickle yes that’s true, and I think that might be a good way to think about it. But I didn’t mean to paint him in that light, he’s not uncaring or anything like that. I wouldn’t even think about him if he was indifferent toward me.

invisiblewoman · 36-40, F

It's weird.
If he felt the same way, you would know.

Ditto · M

Wtf? Are You child? >:I

deathfairy ·

this is what lust feels like. it puts u into ur fullest senses and wakes everything up.

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Edashh2399 · 26-30, F

@ImNotHungry yeah that makes sense.

deathfairy ·

don’t put words into my mouth because male lust and female lust feel very different.@ImNotHungry

what i mean is, lust for females actually can feel like you’re falling in love.

because on an energetic level, the guy is pulling out the pieces of you he needs to be able to procreate with you. it heightens your senses, to be able to “see” someone coming from another room.

for the female body, attraction towards a male goes deep, it goes spiritually deep, it’s not like that for men. that’s how a man is able to feed off of your soul during intercourse and walks away feeling so deeply fulfilled and rejuvenated, while you, not so much.

what you are describing to in your post, is just lust, because men aren’t rly able to feel love at first sight, they only feel lust at first sight, and for it to be love, both people have to be exuding that exact energy and frequency towards each other, at the same time. @Edashh2399

Edashh2399 · 26-30, F

@deathfairy that does make a lot of sense as well, I’ve often wondered if he felt what I felt or if he just thought I was pretty.
Sometimes I feel like he’s exuding that type of energy, I have witnessed him involuntarily take a step toward me in a very similar way that I have to him. One time I just moved toward him, I didn’t even mean to do it. I saw him do the same when I entered the room one day, he was in the middle of a meeting so I know it wasn’t something he did consciously.

It’s just moments like that that are so hard to forget about. I’ve never had a connection like that w anyone in my entire life I don’t think. It’s truly interesting how ppl work.

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