Need advice again

Hello everyone, so I wrote about this guy I met back in 2023, and have had very strong feelings for him since then. But couldn’t bring myself to tell him.
I figured he had felt the same way because the way that he was with me. I had a strong connection with him, I’d be able to tell when he was about to walk into the room even when I had no idea. My eyes would just find him even if I didn’t know he was there. I never felt so strongly about any man in my entire life. He is very special to me.

Recently he invited me to another event for his company, I went and me and him spoke very briefly. But it was all I wanted after not seeing him for almost a year. I crave attention from this man. I’ve tried to forget and move on, but no one else I meet will ever be him. And I’m not trying to compare anyone I deal with, because no one deserves to be compared to other people.

Anyways, what I’m asking is it weird? I signed up for another event, the most recent one I went to although we talked, didn’t go so well. I didn’t even tell him bye. My family thinks it’s weird that I still like this guy and am chasing after him in a way. I’ve tried to forget, I don’t wanna be weird. I just feel like there’s a bond between me and him thats so hard to explain… it’s just you have to be there to see what I mean.. is it weird? To have liked someone so much for this long and not pursue anything with them? Is it weird to keep popping up ? Ugh, I just wanna be around him all the time…

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Kodel · 26-30, M

Honestly, I'd say a fair few men have the same experience with particular women. We meet a women that catches our attention in some way and we become infatuated. Believe me, it's not weird. It's just a very powerful connection; something men and women feel. It's just EXTREMELY rare that that level of connection is mutual.

Edashh2399 · 26-30, F

@Kodel thanks, Kodel. I can definitely see it not being mutual. I’m so open to that. I dont want to be delusional. Thank you for taking the time to comment.

Kodel · 26-30, M

@Edashh2399 There's nothing wrong with hoping but I speak from experience when I say that typically, you would know for certain if someone felt that way about you, unless you are horrendously naive. It's definitely good to have things that you are passionate about. Relationships are great but they can also be our undoing. It's best to save our energy for someone who will reciprocate that passion.

Edashh2399 · 26-30, F

@Kodel I haven’t shared everything, there’s a reason I think he likes me back. When I worked for him, he accidentally made it clear he felt something for me. Or maybe he just thought I was attractive? What I’m saying is, there’s definitely a reason why I believe he may be into me.

Edashh2399 · 26-30, F

And yes you’re right

Kodel · 26-30, M

@Edashh2399 If that's the case, have you tried pursuing something more with him? If you constantly want to be around him and you feel this intense connection, I know it might sound scary, but maybe tell him that. It can feel more comfortable living in the reality we imagine but sadly, our dreams never come true like this. Do you believe that you will try to pursue something with him? Either by telling him what you've shared with us or by expressing your feelings in another way? Or will you leave things as they are?