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I guess I WOULD be a catch!

Lol. Anyone who knows me knows I struggle with severe anxiety with dating or love. Because I have so much generalized anxiety apart from my social life, I fear that would be a deal breaker for a guy. Which makes me feel I am not even a candidate to find love. It depletes my esteem even more, and I feel like I would never be a catch.
But tonight was just pondering, I don't buy or wear jewelry. I dont wear expensive clothes or shoes. I like comfort food over fine dining. And, I dont drink. Maybe I AM a catch!!!! ❣️😲🥺😆💓
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Adogslife · 61-69, M
I think most men aren’t going to be concerned with your anxiety. They’re certainly not going to be put off by your sense of style.

However, you’re half of this equation too. If you feel your anxiety is debilitating, you should seek out a therapist to help. Mental health is really rewarding. The payback is incredible.

Also, my job as a man/lover/date is to make you happy. If you can’t accept that happiness (assuming I’m the right man for you), it’s going to make the relationship difficult. Ideally, you’d want both parties to be fully invested, not just me. That’s why you should invest in yourself.

You’re worth it… whether or not I matter.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@Adogslife I do see a therapist but I may need a change as kind as she is. I need confidence mantras and techniques to stop my crippling self doubt. Thank you for the kind words to invest in ME. 🌈
Adogslife · 61-69, M
@Coralmist There are ways to help. If you’ve gotten to the “trigger(s)”, that’s the place to start. It’s possible to use shock too to rewire that repetitive reaction so it doesn’t fire. Ask if you’re a candidate.

As for the therapist, be specific with your needs. Yes, it’s fun to have alone time to chat - for sure, but you also need to move toward the goals that you’ve defined.