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I guess I WOULD be a catch!

Lol. Anyone who knows me knows I struggle with severe anxiety with dating or love. Because I have so much generalized anxiety apart from my social life, I fear that would be a deal breaker for a guy. Which makes me feel I am not even a candidate to find love. It depletes my esteem even more, and I feel like I would never be a catch.
But tonight was just pondering, I don't buy or wear jewelry. I dont wear expensive clothes or shoes. I like comfort food over fine dining. And, I dont drink. Maybe I AM a catch!!!! 鉂o笍馃槻馃ズ馃槅馃挀
OldMan7070-79 Best Comment
Most anxiety sufferers I've been intimate with have had bad experiences in their past that they cannot seem get over.
It's usually a trust issue combined with their own self-confidence.
It's hard work to lower those feelings from your foreground to your background.
Especially where raw emotions are involved - like love and sex.

Serious suitors and gentlemen are not takers and want their partners to be comfortable with them.

I hope that you find a friend to lean on in your life, so you can begin to enjoy life more soon.
Coralmist41-45, F
@OldMan70 I appreciate that, ty so much馃悶
OldMan7070-79
@Coralmist And thank you for making my heart-felt reply your "best answer"!

Adogslife61-69, M
I think most men aren鈥檛 going to be concerned with your anxiety. They鈥檙e certainly not going to be put off by your sense of style.

However, you鈥檙e half of this equation too. If you feel your anxiety is debilitating, you should seek out a therapist to help. Mental health is really rewarding. The payback is incredible.

Also, my job as a man/lover/date is to make you happy. If you can鈥檛 accept that happiness (assuming I鈥檓 the right man for you), it鈥檚 going to make the relationship difficult. Ideally, you鈥檇 want both parties to be fully invested, not just me. That鈥檚 why you should invest in yourself.

You鈥檙e worth it鈥 whether or not I matter.
Coralmist41-45, F
@Adogslife I do see a therapist but I may need a change as kind as she is. I need confidence mantras and techniques to stop my crippling self doubt. Thank you for the kind words to invest in ME. 馃寛
Adogslife61-69, M
@Coralmist There are ways to help. If you鈥檝e gotten to the 鈥渢rigger(s)鈥, that鈥檚 the place to start. It鈥檚 possible to use shock too to rewire that repetitive reaction so it doesn鈥檛 fire. Ask if you鈥檙e a candidate.

As for the therapist, be specific with your needs. Yes, it鈥檚 fun to have alone time to chat - for sure, but you also need to move toward the goals that you鈥檝e defined.
OntheroadM
Sounds like a catch to me! Just a woman with no frills who a guy could get to know without pretenses... that's a winner!
Coralmist41-45, F
@Ontheroad aww thanks Road馃
HappyCamper7446-50, M
I think any man would be fortunate to have u. Stop selling urself short. Ur a good person with alot to offer.
Coralmist41-45, F
@HappyCamper74 Well I am kind, but many are, so Im not sure what I offer. But I thank you f or such a warm reply馃尭
KatSch36-40, F
When the right one comes along you'll know
firefall61-69, M
You really ARE a catch, believe me
Coralmist41-45, F
@firefall Thank you firefall馃尲
Yes! Youve NIT been captured by and guiled into the All Consuming Societal Myth of keeping up and constantly striving to Match some Arbitrary Ideals ,
Catzgano26-30, F
Find a therapist or psychiatrist to help you
uncalled451-55, M
Maybe repeating it enough is helping to make it sink in?
Coralmist41-45, F
@uncalled4 Well it was more satirical, just mainly based around how Im kinda a cheap date lol!! But, I do feel a tiny shift that not all guys are put off by a woman who has a lot of anxiety. Now can I REMEMBER that when a guy starts talking to me, so I dont get all beet red or so shy I decline? Gawdddd I hope.
uncalled451-55, M
@Coralmist these are like little breakthroughs and I am happy for you.
Coralmist41-45, F
@uncalled4 Ty friend 馃馃檪

 
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