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Most anxiety sufferers I've been intimate with have had bad experiences in their past that they cannot seem get over.
It's usually a trust issue combined with their own self-confidence.
It's hard work to lower those feelings from your foreground to your background.
Especially where raw emotions are involved - like love and sex.
Serious suitors and gentlemen are not takers and want their partners to be comfortable with them.
I hope that you find a friend to lean on in your life, so you can begin to enjoy life more soon.
It's usually a trust issue combined with their own self-confidence.
It's hard work to lower those feelings from your foreground to your background.
Especially where raw emotions are involved - like love and sex.
Serious suitors and gentlemen are not takers and want their partners to be comfortable with them.
I hope that you find a friend to lean on in your life, so you can begin to enjoy life more soon.
Adogslife · 61-69, M
I think most men aren’t going to be concerned with your anxiety. They’re certainly not going to be put off by your sense of style.
However, you’re half of this equation too. If you feel your anxiety is debilitating, you should seek out a therapist to help. Mental health is really rewarding. The payback is incredible.
Also, my job as a man/lover/date is to make you happy. If you can’t accept that happiness (assuming I’m the right man for you), it’s going to make the relationship difficult. Ideally, you’d want both parties to be fully invested, not just me. That’s why you should invest in yourself.
You’re worth it… whether or not I matter.
However, you’re half of this equation too. If you feel your anxiety is debilitating, you should seek out a therapist to help. Mental health is really rewarding. The payback is incredible.
Also, my job as a man/lover/date is to make you happy. If you can’t accept that happiness (assuming I’m the right man for you), it’s going to make the relationship difficult. Ideally, you’d want both parties to be fully invested, not just me. That’s why you should invest in yourself.
You’re worth it… whether or not I matter.
Adogslife · 61-69, M
@Coralmist There are ways to help. If you’ve gotten to the “trigger(s)”, that’s the place to start. It’s possible to use shock too to rewire that repetitive reaction so it doesn’t fire. Ask if you’re a candidate.
As for the therapist, be specific with your needs. Yes, it’s fun to have alone time to chat - for sure, but you also need to move toward the goals that you’ve defined.
As for the therapist, be specific with your needs. Yes, it’s fun to have alone time to chat - for sure, but you also need to move toward the goals that you’ve defined.
HappyCamper74 · 46-50, M
Yes! Youve NIT been captured by and guiled into the All Consuming Societal Myth of keeping up and constantly striving to Match some Arbitrary Ideals ,
Catzgano · 26-30, F
Find a therapist or psychiatrist to help you
uncalled4 · 51-55, M
Maybe repeating it enough is helping to make it sink in?
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@uncalled4 Well it was more satirical, just mainly based around how Im kinda a cheap date lol!! But, I do feel a tiny shift that not all guys are put off by a woman who has a lot of anxiety. Now can I REMEMBER that when a guy starts talking to me, so I dont get all beet red or so shy I decline? Gawdddd I hope.
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