Hurt By Her Response and Blame (Not Gaslighting)

It’s so much fun feeling gaslit in a panic when someone hurts you. My *it’s complicated* friend has a long trip from her job which she says she’ll let me know when she gets to her destination. She doesn’t. Five hours after she was supposed to be there I’ve heard nothing, and she doesn’t respond to calls or texts. Calls start to go straight to voicemail. So, I call her work who can’t get a hold of her either. At this point I’m terrified something happened to her. So, I try calling for a safety check at her destination. So, she gets mad at me for doing so and interrupting her sleep. So, yup… At least I know she’s safe… Even if she decides to stop talking to me I guess.

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V00doo

Not gaslighting. Not your partner. Why the concern?

NewMan2015 · 41-45, M

@V00doo As I’ve said to others below, yes, I know it’s not. The blaming me for my alleged failure when it was her failing to keep up a mutually agreed upon thing felt like gaslighting in the moment. She’s called a welfare check on me when she didn’t know where I was. Because we have been partners before and we’re extremely close friends still. We’re actually exploring the idea of getting back together. She has nightblindness issues, a mentally unstable ex husband, her sense of direction is scary bad, etc. Plus it’s been an established pattern between the two of us reciprocally (as mentioned above, she’s called for one with me).