Hurt By Her Response and Blame (Not Gaslighting)

It’s so much fun feeling gaslit in a panic when someone hurts you. My *it’s complicated* friend has a long trip from her job which she says she’ll let me know when she gets to her destination. She doesn’t. Five hours after she was supposed to be there I’ve heard nothing, and she doesn’t respond to calls or texts. Calls start to go straight to voicemail. So, I call her work who can’t get a hold of her either. At this point I’m terrified something happened to her. So, I try calling for a safety check at her destination. So, she gets mad at me for doing so and interrupting her sleep. So, yup… At least I know she’s safe… Even if she decides to stop talking to me I guess.

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SkeetSkeet · 100+, F

Calling someones work is a bit extream after 5 hours. Nobody is getting gaslight in this situation. She properly needed some time to decompress.

NewMan2015 · 41-45, M

@SkeetSkeet I’d normally agree. But, this has been an established pattern we do for each other. Plus as I’ve responded to others, she has terrible night blindness and is prone to taking wrong turns because she’s terrible with directions. And her narcissistic ex-husband is a bit unstable (she’s a psych professional and has stated as such). But, she lives with him for the kids. There are many reasons why I’d be concerned. But, I’d not have known till today whether or not to be worried as she fell asleep.