When it’s finally really over and you understand who you were really with 💔 He said he did love...

SW-User

What's really wonderful is you're loving yourself despite the pain.. And yes I hope you find someone good, with a good heart. Sorry you're hurting.

SW-User

I think the universe is showing you what love isn't...and maybe it's a lesson to be learned before you find real love . I used to be like you ...so open,seeing good in everyone, life and experiences have jaded me somewhat ...I've learned I need to protect my heart from the wickedness of others ..just facts ...That said ...you will find love ,just becareful where you go looking for it ...the more you invest in someone, unfortunately the more hurt you may get back ...I'm not saying don't love ,I'm just saying be careful ...very careful whom you pour into ...you deserve so much more than someone using you ...fuck those users ...he's just another lesson you had to learn ...you will find better

TinyViolins · 31-35, M

I think that's always a bittersweet pill to swallow, to realize that you still have feelings for people that aren't that great for you. You think maybe they'll come to their senses one day and learn to love you the way you love them. But enough time passes and you realize that not everything is meant to work out. And maybe you're mad at yourself for wasting so much time on wishful thinking.

It's moments like these where I think forgiveness is crucial. Rather than dwelling on the past and reliving the pain, you can learn to move on by forgiving him for lacking the maturity and emotional intelligence to make the relationship work. It sounds like a lot of the problems stemmed from him, which says a lot about his own internal struggles. You just can't help someone who refuses to help themselves.

You should also forgive yourself for loving someone because you saw their good qualities. No one has the ability to see the future, so you can't blame yourself for trusting the wrong person. Let the pain be a lesson rather than a reason to quit. Even though it hurts to feel used, learning to forgive ourselves for trying to love someone helps it hurt a little less. All we can really do is keep trying to do better the next time.

SW-User

Don't give up over how someone hurt you. Heal yourself and see you have done nothing wrong in love in seeing his flaws. Doesn't even mean somewhere he can't love, or be loved (sometimes that's the harder part), it only means together you couldn't, nothing more.

SledgeHammer · 46-50, M

Its admirable how you can find the good in people.
Not everyone can do that.

We have to go with the same capabilities in finding the good, and recognizing the bad.

Just seeing the good in people does not mean you are able to change them to always be good.

When you see the good you see the bad aswell.

In most cases having to look for the good, the bad outweighs the good.

When this is the issue, you try to ignore alot of it because we wait for the good.

We set ourself up for a big fall that gradually trips us up .

Wait... what I'm trying to say is..

Dont let your hope for the good blind you from the bad

SW-User

You've got lucky with that guy fucking off now. From what I read in one of your posts about him he didn't respect you and mostly wanted to use you...if that had continued and become more so with you living together it would've been horrible for you and your son. Hopefully you'll find someone worthwhile...don't settle for less

WandererTony · 56-60, M

Don't give up on hope.

Lostpoet · M

You'll find it.

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