Always Thinking Any Love Interest Is Cheating

After being cheated on a few times already I am always in fear of the person I'm talking to sleeping with other people, sending them pictures, getting hickeys, etc. Like to the point where they could be going to a party and I'm terrified that they're gonna be with someone else. I don't think I'll be able to be in a healthy relationship while I'm like this. How do you get over this and let the past die?

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BigAssLeech · 31-35, M

Be open with your partner, and build a solid foundation of trust based on honest, candid communication. Tell them about your past, your fears, and how you feel. It's important that you don't project this insecurity onto your partners who've otherwise never given you a valid reason to suspect that they're cheating on you, and it's ULTRA important that you never violate their privacy or friendships because of it. Once you lose trust, it is very hard to get back, even if you felt it was valid at the time.

But building open communication and having that necessary mutual trust will go a very long way in helping you overcome this insecurity. Your partner is not your therapist, so do make sure that they know what they're getting into ahead of time.