Do you find love to be transactional?

Would you like a receipt with that? 😏

Not in an actual loving relationship. However, in a loving relationship, support for one another, in whatever need they have, is a key ingredient. That's not transactional, that's supportive, and long as one person is taking advantage of the situation, but that's not loving, is it?

I do think it’s transactional, but not utilitarian. All connections are transactional and in a healthy connection it’s generally balanced. The author Stephen Covey came up with the metaphor that we each gave an emotional do bank account.

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I don't feel that way personally at all, yet if you look at all the conditions/expectations most place on it and all the break ups and divorces I'd say yes.

You mean a [b][i]tit for that[/i][/b] kind of thing ? Only to keep it fun and exciting! 😂☺️

Only when it falls apart it's hard not to see it that way...what you did for them, and they didn't do and vice versa

I've thought about this question a lot over the years, because it certainly seems like it is transactional for a lot of people.

I strongly disagree but I sometimes wonder if I'm deluding myself (if I'm one of those "don't see it" or "don't want to admit it" people).

Its not a commercial deal ...

Love is more than a mere transaction. Love should be unconditional...

That hasn't been our experience.

No i dont at all

I agree