I had the blind dumb luck of ending up with first pick and still am in a state of what the fuck just happened many many moons later.

reeling, even now.

https://allpoetry.com/poem/12397191-Sometimes-I-have-to-pinch-myself-by-Kythra

I would disagree with those of them that tell you to hold out though.

the thing is that people grow on me over time and Romantic Destiny is a load of crap that will leave you lonely bitter and miserable.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201207/why-you-shouldnt-believe-in-soul-mates

What I'm trying to say is that if you have a #2 who's to say that that number is set in stone? if people do grow on us, then maybe things change.

when I'm truthful and honest this has been my experience of both music and people- sometimes I just have to get used to them and familiar.

Nothing is really set in stone.

although for your sake don't let them ever feel ike they were second pick. with affections constantly in a fluid state who knows what the future brings?

I believe alone is better than miserable but is it possible what you thought was second best, had the capacity to love you fully, forever?😊🌷

Be alone till the right one comes along

Never settle for second best

I chose alone.... not sure I made the right choice though....

God knows.

If you're only with someone because you're scared of being alone, that's unfair to both the other person and to you.

First make a guy friend