Is it better to alone or go for second best?

Personally, I would rather be alone than choose second best just so I have someone and not feel alone. It would be a little better than being alone, but if I didn't truly love this person and just for the sake of loneliness, I would probably end up separating from them if someone who I truly love comes along... I am not saying you should wait for a soul mate, but personally, in my experience, I wouldn't be with someone until it is the person I've always loved or more so rarely, someone else who I connect with on the same level or on an even better level comes along... May sound unrealistic but this is just what I think I personally rather. I don't think I would ever truly love someone else and be with them if it is not as much as I did with the first person I have ever loved or better... and I know I have to be honest with myself if this person is actually better or I'm only lying to myself.

BetweenKittensandRiots · 36-40, MVIP

I had the blind dumb luck of ending up with first pick and still am in a state of what the fuck just happened many many moons later.

reeling, even now.

https://allpoetry.com/poem/12397191-Sometimes-I-have-to-pinch-myself-by-Kythra

I would disagree with those of them that tell you to hold out though.

the thing is that people grow on me over time and Romantic Destiny is a load of crap that will leave you lonely bitter and miserable.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201207/why-you-shouldnt-believe-in-soul-mates

What I'm trying to say is that if you have a #2 who's to say that that number is set in stone? if people do grow on us, then maybe things change.

when I'm truthful and honest this has been my experience of both music and people- sometimes I just have to get used to them and familiar.

Nothing is really set in stone.

although for your sake don't let them ever feel ike they were second pick. with affections constantly in a fluid state who knows what the future brings?

meetingmeinthepouringrain · 26-30, F

@BetweenKittensandRiots I have read your second link, an interesting read. I believe in finding someone as close as possible to a soul mate and then working on the relationship, because it is true, no one is perfect. No one is fully evolved on this earth.

Oster1 · M

I believe alone is better than miserable but is it possible what you thought was second best, had the capacity to love you fully, forever?😊🌷