How do you Love someone else? How do you know it is Love?

many people when they say they love someone they are really saying that they love how this person makes them feel or they love what they get from this person, these are all selfish emotions and even saying that they would die for someone doesn't necessarily mean that its true love, it might just mean that they would go to great lengths to keep this person close because they really really need them. my definition of love is very simple and precise : love means that someone else's wellbeing is important to you. in this way love is pure and selfless. everything else is self-interest.