Do you feel you have no one?

If you needed to really talk, or had an issue, or needed help irl etc too?

I might need to live alone soon, and my sister who used to always be in my corner, is very ill. She can't help me physically and I feel a burden bringing anything to her because she is in severe awful daily pain. So I have not one person who can ever support me fully. My therapist says I need some support system, to join a group. But people seem so enmeshed in their own lives.
I wish life wasn't so arduous so much of the time.
Do you ever feel that? It feels terrifying facing life alone.

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MikeHurts · 56-60, M

I see where some one has mentioned church.
You said your not religious but that may be beside the point.
I, myself, am an atheist but that wouldn't stop me from seeking the friendship of those with faith. The church is a system of support and probably the safest place to meet people who care.
There are counselors but they tend to seem to be all about validating you emotionally and as nice as that is some times we need more personal attention.

So I would say think a little more about church.
It's set up to welcome anyone at any time and is a possible way to start a social network with little to no effort on your part.
Social networks are what makes life a little easier to handle. To know a good and caring person is a wonderful thing to have in your corner but a social network can be priceless.

Don't think of it as using the church as much as taking advantage of an untapped system constructed on the premise of helping those in need.

For the most part the church is compiled of nice people. Those people know people. The people those people know also know people.
That is like a turn key social network waiting to be tapped by you.

I must say after writing this I may just end up in church myself Sunday. :-)

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@MikeHurts That's true about people who go to church. I just refrain that they'd want me to attend Mass. But yes some are very gracious people, I'll keep my eyes open . Thanks.

twiigss · M

@Coralmist there was a guy I used to work with, I had thought about moving in with him and his family but he would've wanted me to attend church with them, regardless of how I felt.