Do you feel you have no one?

If you needed to really talk, or had an issue, or needed help irl etc too?

I might need to live alone soon, and my sister who used to always be in my corner, is very ill. She can't help me physically and I feel a burden bringing anything to her because she is in severe awful daily pain. So I have not one person who can ever support me fully. My therapist says I need some support system, to join a group. But people seem so enmeshed in their own lives.
I wish life wasn't so arduous so much of the time.
Do you ever feel that? It feels terrifying facing life alone.

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HijabaDabbaDoo · F

So last year I made a conscious effort to connect with people irl that weren't old friends or family and I managed to hang out with a lot of different people but only two-ish I talk to occasionally. Maintaining friendship can be difficult lol but when I needed the connection, I had it and I can still hit them up when I want to.

The trick for me was acting like we're already friends. Act like you've known someone for years and your brains gonna embrace them like that. Obviously you're not gonna have that deep connection with everyone but it's worth trying.

SinlessOnslaught · M

@HijabaDabbaDoo Our wedding is tomorrow

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@HijabaDabbaDoo That's true, to have a trick of feeling not do separate from others, and more alike. That's a good idea, to think of them as someone you know already. I remember a quote by my favorite author, she's amazing. Byron Katie. She said, "When I look at you, I'm looking in a mirror." Her huge points are we are One, never separate. It's so hard to REMEMBER though. We are so wired to constantly believe in competition, or others know more etc. and you get very low confidence from that. But I know it's distorted thinking. Thanks for the tip🪻

HijabaDabbaDoo · F

@SinlessOnslaught ok meet me by the altar