How would you feel if your therapist said this?

I was discussing dating and my intimidation with men. How I want to date but don't feel enough.. due to my issues. I liked she Said I don't need to heal all my Issues or be Perfect to date. That men will have issues too. But then She said "You have a lot of anxiety. You may always have it. It is who you are.. "
On one hand i get she meant to kind oF not be ashamed of my disorder. But on the Other hand it is not who I AM. It is a result of trauma and not truly me. I just let it go but not sure how to Feel...how might you feel?

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There is no magic cure for anxiety. Everyone goes through cycles of feelings regularly, and some more intensely than others. There is no reason to be ashamed of yourself or your feelings, they are part of you. All you can do is accept who you are, and try to forgive those who harmed you in your past...they aren't harming you anymore, it is in the past, it cannot be changed, and there is no good to be found in revenge. Freedom starts with forgiveness.

You may well have sudden thoughts pop into your head which trigger a lot of anxiety, and all you can do is accept that this is happening, and find healthy ways to manage it. Remind yourself of the truth...it's in the past now. It won't be easy, but it's really all you can do if you want to move forward.