Yepp it was attraction not love. The way he treated you is not love.

I knew what I saw and though now it appears impossible it makes no sense.

Oh wait! Here's the key. "To adults their childhood is deep in a past that is much like a foreign country, where the customs are difficult to understand and language conveys different meanings.

The depth of one's heart sounded for depth - looking into another's in the past - by one who's now becoming hardened. ..

Been there done that pondered it. If there were answers down that road I missed finding any.

Happy Friday.

I’m so sorry to hear that you are going through that…. I am going through a situation like that too right now

Most fail in communicating their love properly for love cannot just be expressed with with words for it needs to be impressed as well.

It may not be that one is not in love anymore but found another Avenue to channel their love.

sometimes a relationship bears a striking resemblence to a drug addiction.

it's not weird for me it's normal at this point. You can do better than that, women have an easier time finding a partner anyways. Ive never actually known what its like to break someomes heart as nobody ever liked me that much. My usual state of mind is heartbroken but i dont notice it since it is so normal now. My face is a bit disfigured & im underwieght. So I can't blame the women too much. I would like to kmow how it feels to be loved & liked & be obsessed over. But in my life ive only felt me falling in love with others but i have never been liked in return. Just genes i guess. I love sexy women with that use mascara & stuff I love how some women look.. But Lord knows they ain't gonna like me how I look lmao. & some women were offended when I tell them they're beautiful. Becaus they don't want someone like me talkimg to them. I accepted it. I do see in the mirror that damn... Its not really a pretty sight. Yah with reall love I believe both people have to be attracted to eachother & obsessed with eachother. But idk much else

Your last sentence says it all. Real love spans decades. Hold on to that. A wish for you, that real love will find you; probably, when you're' not looking.

I've had the same experience and met others who say the same and you know I think this is almost a primal thing, like imprinting or something.

I've had 8 years of that and one day I woke up. it was a minor victory for me to she her realize she couldn't toy with me anymore

Yes. The third time is usually the charm for me. Once I’m done, I’m done.

Yeah. I agree with those last two sentences.

Intentionally going no contact and me not responding to my person's final 2 attempts to suck me back in was what finally did it for me to begin go move on. Took some intensive therapy, a really low low LOW point of my life, and a codependency support group but I finally got my heart to move on.

I'm sorry who you thought was your person ended up not being and that you got hurt in the process.

A lonely feeling indeed

It was limerence

Good for you and glad you finally realized this sooner than later.... great job and stay strong :-)

I am so glad that you realized this and can walk away !! I know from experience that it isn't always easy.

The first time this happens, you can blame them.

Every single time after that, you should blame yourself.

Its horrible. I watched you agonize through it for years. I hate that he did that to you.

Why would you LET someone suck you back in? Wasting 5 years is a long, long time to give someone that kind of power. Take your real love and move forward. Forget the past. Learn a valuable lesson or more. Find the love you deserve. Good luck.

No , he's mentally ill and by treating you this way ... has actually done you a huge favor. No sane man could not resist all that you are Lissa .

Smoke some weed and when you breathe it out just say "fuck it". You'll feel 100x better.

Unrequited love is a special kind of hell. 😞