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It's weird when you are so in love with someone and they dont feel the same about you

And you spend years trying to get over them but they keep sucking you back and then they throw you away again. Over and over. Like your heart doesnt mean a damn thing to them. And it doesn't matter how sad you are or how many tears you cry. But eventually, it might take 5 years, like it did me, you suddenly realize that you aren't in love anymore. He can't hurt you by rejecting you or ignoring you cuz you don't care. The love has faded away. So i guess it was infatuation. Cuz real love never dies.
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SteelHands · 61-69, M
I knew what I saw and though now it appears impossible it makes no sense.

Oh wait! Here's the key. "To adults their childhood is deep in a past that is much like a foreign country, where the customs are difficult to understand and language conveys different meanings.

The depth of one's heart sounded for depth - looking into another's in the past - by one who's now becoming hardened. ..

Been there done that pondered it. If there were answers down that road I missed finding any.

Happy Friday.
@SteelHands Did you fall in love with her potential and not her reality? You learned a valuable lesson.
SteelHands · 61-69, M
@PoetryNEmotion I'm not a fallie kind of guy.

In my case love was weak but it grew. stronger. Strong enough it needed to be controlled several times. To be strong enough to use hate in my mind to bridle it from overreacting is enough proof to me that I did love.

Whether hers was genuine, her opinions on that, or other logical explanations apply isn't much use. Love and logic aren't even near cousins.
@SteelHands Overreacting? So it was false on her part? Did you close your heart after that? Just curious.
SteelHands · 61-69, M
@PoetryNEmotion Not false. If any of those years I could have been sure love for her would leave me then I certainly would have spared myself and left.

It took me almost 40 to tamp it down enough that I could convince myself I was only making myself miserable.

It's absolutely normal for any man to feel the instinct to kill a man that (by my perception) seduced my wife by giving her gifts , plying her with compliments , contacting her secretly, while prying from her any information he could to berate and attack me verbally unaware of it until the problem became obvious.

Especially a punk years younger going after a woman more yrs married than the punk has lived as an adult.

It's 3 confirmed, actually. Most meesed up part. I'll never know how long each one went on even though I know everything else through her own admissions after each one. That seems odd. She claimed she couldn't remember at all.

Lies. I guess she needed one lie to retain as all her own.

As matter fact those guys. I know who they are and almost everything about them. I've spoken to them and even had beers with them. Now if any were ablaze I probably wouldn't spit on them to try putting them out, but I'm no grudge holder. I screwed up in my youth once before I was married snd can admit that.

So had she. That one formerly a close friend, told me everything she still denies half of. She doesn't realise that she isn't as smart as she thought, or ever acknowledged my depth and patience with my slower brethren and sisters. But I know her. Always did. She just never knew me.
@SteelHands Well, her love for you wasn't enough as it caused her to cheat on you. That is sad. I doubt you would ever cheat on your partner. She is worthless. And so is the guy who took her away from you. I guess you can never really know all about your friends. Trust is so vital. Thank you for your honesty. Are you happy now? And are you in a relationship? Sounds like you moved on well. Here's to a real love.
SteelHands · 61-69, M
@PoetryNEmotion Always glad to talk about my perceptions with anyone curious and being divorced means it's completely in the past so stupid arguments about it can't happen.

She's not worthless she's the mom of my adult kids so there's that. She's a couple relationships past the one that ended our long marriage and I think now that she's in her 60s maybe less likely to wander so much.

I'm happy without her and have a few friends to keep me from getting too lonely. A relationship wouldn't work for me. I was married a long time. I know how nre works and the ups and downs I'm not looking to deal with again at my age. To the rest who are though, best of luck. 🙂👍
@SteelHands You have given up. You have your peace I guess. In solitude. Alone. You are worthy of love. It is your choice. I have said before. I will say it again. Nearly anyone can make a kid or more. Takes a lot more to raise them right. They learn from what is modelled. I wish you well. Thank you for the chat. Take care. Be happy.
SteelHands · 61-69, M
@PoetryNEmotion be well.
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