I don't know how to feel

It's a long story but my sister and i have not talked or seen each other for almost a year. We were always really close but for some reason now she hates me and i honestly don't know why. She kicked me out of her apartment by changing the locks even tho i paid 1/3 of all bills. She took what she wanted of my property and threw the remainder away. She tried to get me fired from my job by calling them and accusing me of stealing from them. Thankfully they did not believe that story. She lies to mutual friends of ours about me making up stories that aren't true. The other roommate that we had is bullied and doesn't get along with her either. The roommate called me this morning and told me that she had to take my sister to the ER. They ran tests on her and she has been diagnosed with brain cancer. They said they don't believe that her chances are good. She told other family members in the past that she hates me and wished that i would die. She doesn't want me at the hospital nor anything to do with me. It's upsetting to me even tho she done me really shitty. I honestly don't know how to feel.

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Mamapolo2016 · F

If this was a change from her established personality, it's possible her diseased brain is the cause.

Go see her. If she throws you out, it's status quo and you haven't lost anything. You may look back with regret if you don't.

Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M

I would say the cancer affected her and her brain
If I were you go see the doctor at the hospital and then your sister
Even if she says things to you, you will have done the proper thing
If you want to I am here

SnailTeeth · 36-40

Feelings pass. Death is permanent.
I think you should ask yourself, "How do I want to feel?".
I think you should give up your feelings of invalidation/rejection, and be a bigger person. Even if you can't give them up now, you can push them aside and be the sister you've always wanted your sister to be, then give them up later.

Beetlejuice68 · 51-55, M

Go see her, if not for her sake for yours. The brain cancer could explain her sudden change in personality or grip on reality. At least try make your peace as best you can, I can’t imagine how much of a horrendous experience this must be to go through. Be kind to yourself and her, take care.

Uncfred · 61-69, M

You must see your sister even if it is to say goodbye, her actions are not rational to your past relationship, so it can only be the cancer acting.
Please take my word, the end is abrupt with no second chances.

Juvia · 18-21, F

my uncle had this and went nutso

LordShadowfire · M

I had a similar situation with my grandmother several years ago. She said things about me to my mother which she wouldn't repeat to me for a couple of years afterward. The whole thing stemmed from the fact that I had allowed a couple of my friends who were homeless at the time to crash at our house. I eventually found out she had told her that her biggest mistake in life was adopting me. I decided the moment I heard that to live as though she were already dead. When she died earlier this year, it was much less of a blow as a result.

It sounds to me like your sister has been an awful human being, not worthy of your time. The fact that she's dying doesn't change that. Don't go if you don't want to.

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