Am I wrong

I’ve been in a relationship with this girl for 6 years I’m constantly doing everything for her and me and our daughter now I feel like a butler sometimes just catering to them all the time she never helps me cook clean or do anything expects me to handle out daughter everyday feed her dress her put her to sleep never once tries to help me at all and I work from 10 to 7 everyday and she don’t even have a job I support her my daughter and still she stays in her phone talking to her friends 24/7 she will do anything for then but always seems bothered by her own family i really don’t understand this am I wrong? Or idk honestly I just feel like I’m doing it’ll by myself and I still get disrespected and treated like I don’t do enough…..(sigh)

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AnonymousJSS · 22-25, F

If this is how you feel after 6 years, no, you are not wrong.

xbandoleerx · 56-60, M

@AnonymousJSS I second you. Honestly, I feel that woman must herself wondering as to why she has she not ended up getting a kick after all these years of scrounging ?

Casheyane · F

Is she your daughter's mother or just a gf you have?

You can talk to her about your frustrations first. Ask her to share your burdens.
Let her share your responsibility.
If not, focus on your daughter.
You don't have to cater to the girl's every need if she doesn't contribute. Honestly, that's how you create a monster or a lazy bum.

Because if she has you to do all those things, then why in the world would she need to, right? It sucks but sometimes, being stern is actually a thing that could help people do better.

In the long run, a family is meant to help one another. And if she's just a gf, then it's your call to dump her.

xbandoleerx · 56-60, M

No relationship can exist without rules.
Rules are there because everyone has rights.
Rights exist so there is nothing unfair done to anyone nor is anyone treated unjustly.
You are young and inexperienced that’s why u are unable to take a decision.
At times we don’t need to add up 1+1 to find out what’s the result as the writing is on the wall. The decision is already there.
Just read what’s on the wall and do what’s needful specially because you have a daughter.

PhilDeep · 51-55, M

You might consider yourself to be in a relationship, doesn't sound like it, except as a father, sorry to say, looking at just this that you've written.

Outsider98 · 36-40, M

Are ya sure what she is doing on the phone all day. Theres probably another man.

SW-User

She is par for the course

SStarfish ·

Kick her out. Thats bs

SW-User

If you’re a man, and you’re in a relationship, wondering if you’re wrong, the answer is yes.

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