I dislike so much hookup culture

@BlueVeins well they don't need to cheat, they could just end the relationship and be with another person, or if they agreed and are ok with it have open relationships

@SW-User Both of those options have been taboo for hundreds of years in the west, even illegal at times. That's what hook-up culture is fixing.

@BlueVeins I don't see it really fixes anything, it was took to an extreme...

@SW-User The fix is that ppl who want non-conventional sexual relationships can finally get it with a reduced risk of social ostracization.

@BlueVeins non conventional as what? As those open relationships you're talking again, polygamy ? I don't see disrespect with that if both people are into it. But I give sex a deeper meaning, linked with trust, intimacy, and that my dear can't be treated like a toy. For self-respect and respect of others. I don't see people just like objects to have fun discard and forget. Nope.

@SW-User
OK? Good for you I guess, but that's not like an intrinsic part of sexuality.


Very dishonest characterization of one night stands. You don't "discard" someone after a one night stand; you just go your separate ways and both parties continue to exist and are fine. Partners in a one night stand no more "discard" each other than a student discards their teacher at the end of the year. And while I've never done it before, I seriously doubt that they forget.

Some people really enjoy that first sexual encounter in a relationship more than they enjoy all the others, so they optimize for as many first sexual encounters as possible. If that's what you enjoy and that's what they enjoy, then yeah I'd definitely argue that the one night stand model is more respectful for them (though obv all parties must be clear with their intentions, as in monogamy). Again, totally cool if you don't feel that way -- I don't either, actually -- but I'd rather people be able to embrace their own preferences than have people like myself dictate for them.

@BlueVeins it's strange that you say that, because you seem to try hard for me to think like you do, like yes that's how I feel about it all, I'm not saying that everyone should think like I do, I was stating how I feel about it and you make it seem like it's not valid or something, if for you that mindset of accepting that way of living is ok good for you but for me it's not, it's simple

@BlueVeins like ok if you accept that but I don't?

@SW-User I'm not trying to get you to think like I do. Personally, I prefer more of a fwb type of situation, but I'm not tryna tell you that you should also enjoy fwb or that you're bad for preferring conventional, monogamous relationships. What I'm suggesting is that you accept that these things are equally valid even though you don't personally enjoy them.

@BlueVeins For me they're not valid, I don't share that mindset, if you do ok i respect it but will never share it.

@SW-User Sounds pretty weak. 💅

@BlueVeins That edgily hits the spot! You're young to have an insight like that.

@BlueVeins weak why? Cause i can respect someone but not share their beliefs? If that's your definition of weakness.. Mm? Anyway this is getting old, like you said what you needed to say and me too, everything else would be a waste of time. Go and enjoy your birthday. We simply think different.

@UpForItNow so I don't just cause I don't enjoy that kinda thing? Well I'm glad then, it depends how you see it, I'm like i am and feel happy to have my own mind regardless of what others think or do

@BlueVeins That last sentence is especially good. One night stands have brought incalculable mutual pleasure to people. Assuredly many men would have wished most of them had lasted longer.

@SW-User You have the luxury of feeling about sex that way because you're female. An attractive young female dictates the play of the relationship. The majority of men have to take what they can get, and their needs are greater and more immediate, and they have to pay for it, hard, one way or another. Your admirable and agreed statements are some ideal to which I long since stopped aspiring to. This is, of course, how nature has dictated it for us.

@SW-User Seems pretty disrespectful to characterize someone else's relationships as lesser without any good reason for it.

@BlueVeins that's exactly what you're doing about my personal decisions, and you don't even realize it. And keep going and going on? Do your own thing and that's it, don't worry about what I do with my life, you do yours

@SW-User No I'm not, I'm literally telling you that your relationships are ever bit as valid as every other person's.


Oh the irony

@BlueVeins you keep going in circles, I told you already that I simply don't share your views, I can respect you as a person but not your views, what is for you is not for me ok?

@BlueVeins you told me I'm weak even for thinking the way I do, and I say ok if that's what you think ok, doesn't make a difference

@SW-User mmmm no, I told you you're weak for viewing criticism of ideology the way you do, like it's a form of intolerance or something silly like that.

@BlueVeins just as intolerant as you are of my ideologies of not accepting them, like you try eveyone to accept everything even if they don't want to. That's a form of intolerance too.

@BlueVeins and I wouldn't say you're weak for that. It's strange to use that word just because you can't.

@BlueVeins BTW are you enjoying your birthday? Setting this topic aside I hope you have a beautiful day today, enjoy it a lot 😊😊😊