How do I get my confidence back? I feel gutted and I don't want to feel this way anymore

When ur confidence is ruined means the words u heard were stronger than your own reasoning so look for better answers.

Don't minimize your accomplishments - appreciate them

Look at these times as a succession to better times by taking some actions everyday - even small ones.

I have something really hard to do - and I try to do something every day, even stupid stuff, just so I know I'm getting toward my goal...it adds up.

I think once you find a new, good job, and get settled in a decent place, and get financially secure, it will help.

I have had these three for many years now, and my confidence has grown over time. Especially once I realized I knew more than my coworkers about many things, and they would turn to me for help. Also, chatting on EP and SW made me realize I am likable!

I hope you also meet the love of your life. I often think that if I ever meet mine, my life would be bliss and nothing would hold me down.

(Unless she nags me too much, or wants me to change too much. Ha ha. Yet my guess is she would not be the love of my life!)

We are all rooting for you!

Realize how beautiful you are, both inside and out.
You really are cute. Trust me.

Then start focusing on what you have instead of things you want.
Focus on the things you can do better and how to accomplish it, instead of thinking about grander things or days.
Let go of the negative things of your past and instead renew all your efforts towards the future.

Be well
Live happy
Die trying,
Rob

https://similarworlds.com/inspiration/appreciate-simple-things/4457381-Wishing-You-Peace-Inside-An-explanation-of-a-wish

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Choose to accept that whatever you are is enough. Stop caring about what anyone else thinks of you.

Eventually, you'll may actually start to believe it.

You have to remove the concept of IF. Of course you are enough, as good as anyone.