Why have i not even came close to having a boyfriend?

I'm at least decent looking. Some tell me I'm pretty. I cook good, I'm a good friend to have around. I like adventure. Just seems like guys these days are too manipulative for me. I stick up for myself and that's the end of them. Anyone live in the central U.S that wants to be my REAL boyfriend lol. Seriously. Been single almost my whole life. I'm willing to do long distance because I'm willing to relocate. Just want to finally experience what most have at least experienced once in their life

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Madhatter · 31-35, M

Well, it's hard to answer without hearing the other side of the story as well. Did you stick up for yourself or were you uncompromising? We know how you saw it, but how did they see it? Society tells us that people should love us exactly how we are. More honestly, we need to examine ourselves, identify problem areas, and improve. None of us are perfect and we all could do with a little change, so long as that change is positive. It's not "Why don't they like me as I am?" It's "How much am I willing to sacrifice to make them like me before I no longer like myself?"

Don't enter a relationship out of desperation. It's doomed to fail from the start. Just be you and someone will take notice. That's a good baseline. If some changes need to come later to make it work, handle it then. Just make sure that at the end of it you still love yourself as much as you love them.

That's what I think, anyway.

Kayay · 31-35, F

@Madhatter You. Yes.

VeronicaJane

Maybe, but it sounds more like you haven't found some one worthy of you. Don't know where you are looking, but don't sell yourself short.

DisgruntledWookie

You sound really nice. And if they leave If they don't get what they want they were probably manipulative. Keep searching! You will find a nice guy 🙂

SW-User

I’ll probably never have a real girlfriend either.

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Deeperminds · 46-50, F

That's exactly how I am. I enjoy my own company so much I even go on road trips all by myself. I'm a loner and have social anxiety

SW-User

@Deeperminds I feel like having a job as a truck driver, where I spend 4 to 6 months on the road at a time would be perfect. I just don’t realistically see me ever being able to handle a relationship. Not to mention the idea of a girl meeting my family gives me all kinds of anxiety. I’m so different depending on if I’m with friends, coworkers, or family I wouldn’t know how to act.

Deeperminds · 46-50, F

Haha same thing here. I would feel incredibly awkward bringing a guy around my family after all this time. He would have to fit in perfectly and not be some dumb ass that would reflect embarrassment upon me lol. I'm pretty picky

SW-User

Don't know what to tell you - but if you go to the right places, not places that will treat you as a piece of meat, or an opportunity, you should find the right man.

MarmeeMarch · M

Here you go - all these online guys are applying for the job

MarmeeMarch · M

you never had a bf ?

Deeperminds · 46-50, F

Well once in high school. We were together 3 years or so and that's my daughter's father. But gosh that was over 20 years ago. Then there was my soulmate, love of my life, we were never together though. Plus he died

MarmeeMarch · M

@Deeperminds Oh so you are a widow - well you were married

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