Why have i not even came close to having a boyfriend?

I'm at least decent looking. Some tell me I'm pretty. I cook good, I'm a good friend to have around. I like adventure. Just seems like guys these days are too manipulative for me. I stick up for myself and that's the end of them. Anyone live in the central U.S that wants to be my REAL boyfriend lol. Seriously. Been single almost my whole life. I'm willing to do long distance because I'm willing to relocate. Just want to finally experience what most have at least experienced once in their life

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Madhatter · 31-35, M

Well, it's hard to answer without hearing the other side of the story as well. Did you stick up for yourself or were you uncompromising? We know how you saw it, but how did they see it? Society tells us that people should love us exactly how we are. More honestly, we need to examine ourselves, identify problem areas, and improve. None of us are perfect and we all could do with a little change, so long as that change is positive. It's not "Why don't they like me as I am?" It's "How much am I willing to sacrifice to make them like me before I no longer like myself?"

Don't enter a relationship out of desperation. It's doomed to fail from the start. Just be you and someone will take notice. That's a good baseline. If some changes need to come later to make it work, handle it then. Just make sure that at the end of it you still love yourself as much as you love them.

That's what I think, anyway.

Kayay · 31-35, F

@Madhatter You. Yes.