twistedrope · 26-30, M
Family is important.
However, ultimately, every choice is your own. The choice to study dentistry is your choice. The choice to choose your family over your own happiness is your choice.
I had a conteolling parent that when I wasn't dependent on them, I cut them out of my life. I had emotionally cut them off long ago because he would take my vulnerable feelings and weaponize them against me. As a child, I had come to realize that.
I had ti cut him off to choose my own happiness and calmness.
Now... Dentistry is a field that will earn a lot more money then data or programming. Computer engineering is a very difficilt not very worthwhile field but it is fun. Dentistry is an extremely dangerous field because of the harm that can be done, thatd why it pays a lot. Very high pressure.
There is no right answer. If your parent weaponises your own feelings, its a form of mental abuse. You should never be put down by someone as an adult or made to feel bad by anyone. That's just the way it is. You can try google how to assert yourself, I learned it for work or just accept it's not worth the risk and cut yourself off from this person emptionally and keep it to single word sentences, nothing vulnerable. And write your thoughts to a google doc with a password next time.
However, ultimately, every choice is your own. The choice to study dentistry is your choice. The choice to choose your family over your own happiness is your choice.
I had a conteolling parent that when I wasn't dependent on them, I cut them out of my life. I had emotionally cut them off long ago because he would take my vulnerable feelings and weaponize them against me. As a child, I had come to realize that.
I had ti cut him off to choose my own happiness and calmness.
Now... Dentistry is a field that will earn a lot more money then data or programming. Computer engineering is a very difficilt not very worthwhile field but it is fun. Dentistry is an extremely dangerous field because of the harm that can be done, thatd why it pays a lot. Very high pressure.
There is no right answer. If your parent weaponises your own feelings, its a form of mental abuse. You should never be put down by someone as an adult or made to feel bad by anyone. That's just the way it is. You can try google how to assert yourself, I learned it for work or just accept it's not worth the risk and cut yourself off from this person emptionally and keep it to single word sentences, nothing vulnerable. And write your thoughts to a google doc with a password next time.
Casheyane · 31-35, F
Freedom to choose comes when you become stronger and hold real strength. I'm not saying be cruel.
But there is a path only you can make.
If you want to learn something, it doesn't have to be now. If you believe in yourself and your dream enough, you may opt to finish what you started. Get real strength, and by that, the ability to support yourself so you can take on your dreams. Then, study what you want.
I chose a course out without much thought and research. I ended crying because I hated it. But it opened up a lot of paths for me to choose from. In the end, I diverted from it. But the lessons I learned, the strength I developed, the regrets I made and the lessons from them...they became a foundation of strength. So even if I have to start from nothing, learn things from scratch, now I know that I can. I have already proven it to myself.
Good luck on your path :) I hope you end up taking one you won't end up resenting.
But there is a path only you can make.
If you want to learn something, it doesn't have to be now. If you believe in yourself and your dream enough, you may opt to finish what you started. Get real strength, and by that, the ability to support yourself so you can take on your dreams. Then, study what you want.
I chose a course out without much thought and research. I ended crying because I hated it. But it opened up a lot of paths for me to choose from. In the end, I diverted from it. But the lessons I learned, the strength I developed, the regrets I made and the lessons from them...they became a foundation of strength. So even if I have to start from nothing, learn things from scratch, now I know that I can. I have already proven it to myself.
Good luck on your path :) I hope you end up taking one you won't end up resenting.
YoMomma ·
sorry you are not enjoying getting to do what you want 😬 it's more fun to do things one enjoys but sometimes people have to do things they don't wish to to make a living.. dentistry is a good stable job in high demand.. but so is tech work if you are good at it.. have you never talked to your mother about perusing your own interest instead of her directives? schooling is expensive these days so it's good to make smart choices .. but you should be able to talk to her without her demeaning you or blackmailing you per say .. sorry you are not currently enjoying your studies