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A issue on my Life...

Well, where can I start? I guess with my name. Hello dear reader, my name is Peter, or something like that in English. Yes, I am Brazilian, I am 22 years old, and I believe that these years have not been very easy for me emotionally speaking. I am in my third year of dental school and I am doing “pretty well,” I think. To be honest, I'm not happy in this program. I wanted to try dentistry, and now I'm here trying to be as strong as possible. It's very exhausting and sad.

I wanted something with technology, working with data or programming. I've always been fascinated by that, but my mother insisted that I finish dentistry, which I didn't want to do, to be honest. In the first year, I even liked it, but in the second year, I realized that it wasn't for me. Please don't take this as cowardice or because I'm weak, it's just not for me. See, I've already given myself away with a simple comment. Once I wrote about my feelings in a letter and my mom found it while cleaning my room. Yes, there were some words and things that were a little depressing, and the ending is that you understand me. Much later, she used that letter as if I were a poor little thing and emotionally blackmailed me with it. Geez, I would never do something like that. I was just sad and down, that's all. I've always been a very happy supporter of others, but of course I have my bad days.
I just wanted to vent about this and that I really want to change careers to something I like, and how will I do that since my family won't like it.
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Casheyane · 31-35, F
Freedom to choose comes when you become stronger and hold real strength. I'm not saying be cruel.
But there is a path only you can make.
If you want to learn something, it doesn't have to be now. If you believe in yourself and your dream enough, you may opt to finish what you started. Get real strength, and by that, the ability to support yourself so you can take on your dreams. Then, study what you want.

I chose a course out without much thought and research. I ended crying because I hated it. But it opened up a lot of paths for me to choose from. In the end, I diverted from it. But the lessons I learned, the strength I developed, the regrets I made and the lessons from them...they became a foundation of strength. So even if I have to start from nothing, learn things from scratch, now I know that I can. I have already proven it to myself.

Good luck on your path :) I hope you end up taking one you won't end up resenting.
twistedrope · 26-30, M
Family is important.

However, ultimately, every choice is your own. The choice to study dentistry is your choice. The choice to choose your family over your own happiness is your choice.

I had a conteolling parent that when I wasn't dependent on them, I cut them out of my life. I had emotionally cut them off long ago because he would take my vulnerable feelings and weaponize them against me. As a child, I had come to realize that.

I had ti cut him off to choose my own happiness and calmness.

Now... Dentistry is a field that will earn a lot more money then data or programming. Computer engineering is a very difficilt not very worthwhile field but it is fun. Dentistry is an extremely dangerous field because of the harm that can be done, thatd why it pays a lot. Very high pressure.

There is no right answer. If your parent weaponises your own feelings, its a form of mental abuse. You should never be put down by someone as an adult or made to feel bad by anyone. That's just the way it is. You can try google how to assert yourself, I learned it for work or just accept it's not worth the risk and cut yourself off from this person emptionally and keep it to single word sentences, nothing vulnerable. And write your thoughts to a google doc with a password next time.
YoMomma ·
sorry you are not enjoying getting to do what you want 😬 it's more fun to do things one enjoys but sometimes people have to do things they don't wish to to make a living.. dentistry is a good stable job in high demand.. but so is tech work if you are good at it.. have you never talked to your mother about perusing your own interest instead of her directives? schooling is expensive these days so it's good to make smart choices .. but you should be able to talk to her without her demeaning you or blackmailing you per say .. sorry you are not currently enjoying your studies

 
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