Boy, do I feel for you. This really makes my heart ache at what you're going through. And you've not been married that long. This is pretty scary. I do believe he needs to grow up, but I also think you're making excuses to yourself about him and his behavior. I see it as much worse than you do. I've been through all that abuse. Sometimes we do lie to ourselves so that we'll feel better but it's important to get a handle on this and right away. I definitely don't like his behavior towards you and him just flying off the handle because you might go to the bathroom? This is narcissistic. This could turn really bad, if he's acting this way now. This guy needs serious help and most of all while you can, you and that baby don't need to be there with him, I'm sorry. That baby senses things, don't think the baby doesn't. You're going to end up with not only yourself upset and in a terrible mess, but you have got to protect that baby from this type of toxic environment. What sad is you're not really taking this too seriously but you should. His temper tantrums and whatever will definitely ruin your baby's life and that's one thing you don't want, as well as your own. He's not doing one thing to support the family. He needs to grow up. I'm not trying to pick on him but boy do I see the red flags and it's not going to get better I'm sorry to say, if something is not done. You need counseling badly and so does he. Because the first time you put your foot down or separate from him for a little bit he'll come crying and absolutely begging you to come back but he won't mean it because he will just be upset about losing control of you. He sounds very narcissistic and that's very dangerous. You need to get that baby in the safe environment right now, not tomorrow, and not go back to this guy until he has taken a full course of counseling and that doesn't mean quitting after two sessions.. if he's treating you like this now, that will escalate into physical violence. Don't wait around until that happens. That's not a maybe. This will escalate and you might end up with a black eye and other bruises and even more depressed than you are. My heart sure goes out to you and I'm sorry to have to tell you those things but I had to. You may not believe it now, but usually these things escalate until he'll hit you and then apologize and maybe even cry and then do it again and it's a vicious cycle. Please protect yourself in that baby. If you have a relative you can get away too and live with, please do and then get a restraining order so that he cannot come bother you but hopefully won't be able to find you. You need to go to a relative's house that is far away and whatever you do, do not tell one soul where you have gone because he will come find you and then you will really be upset. But this has to stop right now. I'm so sorry to tell you these things but I do not want to see you get hurt or go through more. This is just heartbreaking for you and the baby. I will be praying for you. You just can't say oh well but yeah but he's really good at times. That might be true and it sounds like he is at times, but you must stop this abusive behavior that he displays other times. I wish I could say it will get better but it won't because he's not going to let that happen. He has displayed that. He put you down and orders you. That behavior does not get better on its own. It only escalates as to how much you allow, but pretty soon it will get even worse because he doesn't want to be controlled. Please get help and counseling. ❤ Hugs
