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my mom pressuring me applying for college admissions

So earlier, I felt like sharing or telling something to my mom about the school I’m applying to.

She told me to "fix everything," like applying to EAC (Emilio Aguinaldo College), which is the college my mom wants me to apply to.

She said I should prepare for the entrance exam and make sure to pass.

Then she suddenly mentioned, "I’m not asking, but I see Aira posting (the certificate with honors)." (Aira is my classmate and neighbor, and my mom sees her posts about getting honors.)

Then she said again that I should prepare properly for the entrance exam because I might end up going to EARIST.

(EARIST is a nearby school, more affordable, and kind of a low-budget private college.)

She said, "If you don’t pass, you’ll go to EARIST."

Then she added, "I’m telling you, it’s also hard to pass there."

I felt so pressured.

I tried telling her to calm down, like, "Don’t get mad," because I was really feeling the pressure.

Then I whispered, "The dumb one here is feeling the pressure."

I don’t think she heard that, though.

She said, "At work, you’ll feel even more pressure. You need to learn how to balance it now."

And I get her point because this is just the beginning. There will be more challenges ahead in life.

But it feels like I’m not allowed to feel pressure or anything at all.

I don’t take it against my mom because I know she has a point. She just wants me to be strong since her experiences are very different from mine.

But I don’t know how to take what she’s saying.

It feels like my feelings don’t matter.

Maybe I’m just being overly dramatic, but it’s making me overthink.

That’s all.

It just makes me lose motivation when she tells me, "Do you really want to go to EARIST?"

"You’ll have a different experience there."

"Make your choice now."
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Penny · 46-50, F
maybe shes trying to toughen you up. you cant expect to be babied in life as an adult. obviously she wants you to go to that school. weight your options. see what programs they offer. compare with teh other school you have in mind. she must be recommending the EAC school. she wouldnt if she thought youd have a bad experience there. mayb eit would be better. take a look. i know its scary and confusing and big decisions and everythign but whatever choices you make now are important. make them and confidently hope for the best.

eta- you also seem to be worried about not qualifying. maybe have some trade school ideas in mind in case you dont get accepted into the colleges. just take the tests prepare for them as best as you can and if you dont pass then you dont pass. you just pick yourself up and do the best that you can. its not a reason to get down on yourself. learn to roll with the punches and meet what life deals you with a positive attitude.