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my mom pressuring me applying for college admissions

So earlier, I felt like sharing or telling something to my mom about the school I’m applying to.

She told me to "fix everything," like applying to EAC (Emilio Aguinaldo College), which is the college my mom wants me to apply to.

She said I should prepare for the entrance exam and make sure to pass.

Then she suddenly mentioned, "I’m not asking, but I see Aira posting (the certificate with honors)." (Aira is my classmate and neighbor, and my mom sees her posts about getting honors.)

Then she said again that I should prepare properly for the entrance exam because I might end up going to EARIST.

(EARIST is a nearby school, more affordable, and kind of a low-budget private college.)

She said, "If you don’t pass, you’ll go to EARIST."

Then she added, "I’m telling you, it’s also hard to pass there."

I felt so pressured.

I tried telling her to calm down, like, "Don’t get mad," because I was really feeling the pressure.

Then I whispered, "The dumb one here is feeling the pressure."

I don’t think she heard that, though.

She said, "At work, you’ll feel even more pressure. You need to learn how to balance it now."

And I get her point because this is just the beginning. There will be more challenges ahead in life.

But it feels like I’m not allowed to feel pressure or anything at all.

I don’t take it against my mom because I know she has a point. She just wants me to be strong since her experiences are very different from mine.

But I don’t know how to take what she’s saying.

It feels like my feelings don’t matter.

Maybe I’m just being overly dramatic, but it’s making me overthink.

That’s all.

It just makes me lose motivation when she tells me, "Do you really want to go to EARIST?"

"You’ll have a different experience there."

"Make your choice now."
Penny · 46-50, F
maybe shes trying to toughen you up. you cant expect to be babied in life as an adult. obviously she wants you to go to that school. weight your options. see what programs they offer. compare with teh other school you have in mind. she must be recommending the EAC school. she wouldnt if she thought youd have a bad experience there. mayb eit would be better. take a look. i know its scary and confusing and big decisions and everythign but whatever choices you make now are important. make them and confidently hope for the best.

eta- you also seem to be worried about not qualifying. maybe have some trade school ideas in mind in case you dont get accepted into the colleges. just take the tests prepare for them as best as you can and if you dont pass then you dont pass. you just pick yourself up and do the best that you can. its not a reason to get down on yourself. learn to roll with the punches and meet what life deals you with a positive attitude.
JamesBugman · 56-60, T
Sounds like she is trying to motivate you but doing a bad job of it. Getting a degree in something these days is the minimum for job applications. Bachelors or Majors.
I don't think the school matters one bit, but maybe where you are it does..
One thing for sure, if you do not do it, you will regret it, especially if mom is paying, you may never get that chance again in life.
MyDisplayNameIsKari · 16-17, F
i get it that she just want me to be serious for what i'm doin but the last time i open up smthn to her she invalidate my feelings , so now i feel like my feelings is not important and like i should not feel pressured or what.
Penny · 46-50, F
@MyDisplayNameIsKari of course you are going to feel pressured. its a major step into the unknown you are facing. avoiding it will just make it worse though. try to muster your energy to deal with it and focus until its done. school is important to get a good job that pays well. this is the whole point. to qualify yourslef for a better job than a minimum wage job and hopefully one that you will enjoy doing. work can be fulfilling and very rewarding or a miserable experience of drudgery and bad experiences. try your best to avoid the latter.
@MyDisplayNameIsKari oh she knows your feelings alright.... All she wants is you to succeed in your life. There are a lot of things that she can't or won't explain you for obvious reasons.

My story, my father put me in a different college, but I wanted to go to where all my friends were. In the end I scored more than my friends and started working way earlier than them.
That time I felt just like you, but realized later that it was for my own good.
I don’t take it against my mom because I know she has a point. She just wants me to be strong since her experiences are very different from mine.


That's the answer. Don't hate her. You'll realize it way later in your life
I guess your mom is high pressure and dont believe in giving you a break 😅

 
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